If someone gives you feedback, do you immediately feel you’ve failed in some way? Do you feel a failure if you haven’t done something perfectly?
Even if you receive constructive criticism do you feel a failure? Well here’s an alternative way to think of that feedback. It’s an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) presupposition:
“There is no failure, only feedback”
You have a choice as to how you handle your feedback and failures. You can remain stuck and give up, thinking you’re not good enough or you can learn the lessons presented, dust yourself off and try again.
As Albert Einstein said:
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
Everyone makes mistakes. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is their ability to learn from their mistakes, adjust their behaviour/actions and try again. Each time you make a mistake you learn more about what you are trying to achieve and yourself.
Just think what would have happened if you had given up trying to walk the first time you fell over. You wouldn’t have gotten very far in life! So be like a child and just get up and try again.
Focussing on your failure keeps you stuck in the past and the problems. So focus on the results you’ve gotten and what you want to achieve. Now shift your focus to other possibilities and move forward.
Think about what you want to achieve, what you have achieved so far, what feedback you’ve had, what you have learned, how you use your lessons in a positive way and how you will measure your success. Then dust yourself off and have another go!
Remember, the words of Elbert Hubbard:
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one.”
Go for it!
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