Will EFT Work On My X Issue Too?

Another question I frequently get asked by clients is: Will EFT Work On My X Issue Too?

FAQ - Will EFT work on my X issue?

Say a client has come to me for their stress and anxiety at work issue. They will often only think of using EFT on that issue. They won’t think to use this amazing tool on their fear of spiders issue or when they have an argument with their partner, or when they have a headache etc.

So my advice is always the same – just try it! When clients have resolved their original issue they often forget about EFT and don’t think to use it on other things that come up in their life. I always aim to teach my clients that this amazing tool is theirs – it’s at their fingertips.

Most people need a reminder from time to time though. So my advice is to do some tapping on a daily basis so that it becomes a good habit. That way we don’t have to think about it – we automatically start doing it in times of need. EFT becomes their ‘go to’ self help tool.

Here’s some ways I’ve used EFT this week to give you an idea:

  • Daily affirmations (remember to get rid of your “yes buts” first before working with affirmations)
  • Stuck behind a slow moving lorry when running late
  • Feeling stressed when trying to multi task too many things at once
  • Tight and painful shoulders (as a result of previous point!)
  • After hearing some upsetting news from a friend

EFT has helped me so much in so many ways. My aim is to educate and spread the word about this amazing tool so that you can benefit from it too.

So, why not try making EFT a part of your daily self care? That way, you will think of using it for your X issue 🙂

Keep tapping
Email Louise

Fear of Flying

Ok, so it’s that holiday time of year again. You’re feeling all excited because you’re off to a fantastic destination and you can’t wait to be free from your usual responsibilities. But wait, there’s a bit of a niggle going on. In fact, it’s more than a niggle. It’s a feeling of absolute dread…having that realisation that I have to fly…oh my!

Well wait there just a minute… You don’t have to feel the fear anyway. You don’t have to feel that dread, grin and bear it, take Valium, grit your chattering teeth, get drunk or any other manner of ways you normally deal with it. There is a simple way to clear your fear of flying. It’s EFT…Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping as it is commonly called.

Now there could be many different things that cause your fear. These are the different aspects of your fear. Like different parts of a jigsaw puzzle as it were. Here are some of the common ones:

  • Being in a confined space
  • Noise of the engines
  • Feeling out of control
  • Vibration of the engines
  • Feeling trapped
  • Heights
  • Turbulence
  • Taking off
  • Landing
  • Fear of crashing
  • Not being able to see ahead
  • Not being able to see the ground
  • Fear of dying

Now that list is not exhaustive. So think about what it is that does it for you. If you start feeling a knot in your stomach, a tightness in your chest or throat or your palms starting sweating just thinking about it…tap right away, right now, go on, you’ll feel better I promise you.

Fear of flying

Here is a generic tapping script that you can tap along to. Rate your score first on a scale of 0 – 10 where 10 is maximum intensity (fear).

  • Even though I’m so scared of flying, I hate feeling out of control, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m so scared of flying, my palms sweat, I get a tight chest and I feel frozen with terror, I’m ok
  • Even though I have this fear of flying, I’m open to letting this go now

Eyebrow: I’m so terrified of flying
Side of Eye: My palms sweat just thinking about it
Under Eye: I love to go on holiday, I just hate getting there
Under Nose: I’m so scared of flying
Chin: I feel so out of control
Collarbone: My chest gets tight as soon as I get to the airport
Under Arm: My palms sweat the whole flight
Top of Head: Flying terrifies me

Eyebrow: I feel frozen with terror the whole flight
Side of Eye: This fear really puts me off going on holiday
Under Eye: I hate having this fear
Under Nose: I wish I didn’t have to fly
Chin: But flying is so quick and convenient
Collarbone: I hate feeling out of control
Under Arm: I’m really terrified of flying
Top of Head: I feel so terrified my palms sweat and my chest gets tight

Eyebrow: I’m open to changing this feeling today
Side of Eye: Maybe I can let this fear go now
Under Eye: What if I could feel calm
Under Nose: Letting it be safe for me to let this fear go
Chin: Maybe I can feel calm and safe
Collarbone: I’m open to feeling differently
Under Arm: Letting it be safe, easy and comfortable for me to fly
Top of Head: Maybe I can relax and feel calm

I hope the script helped. Remember to work on all the bits of your jigsaw puzzle to fully clear your fear for ever. There may also be specific memories for you to work on. If there are then use the movie technique for each mental movie that has contributed to your fear. See my previous post for details how.

Keep on tapping
Louise
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
07866 013 637

Frozen with Fear?

Are you frozen with fear? Is your fear keeping you stuck?

Is your fear stopping you from enjoying relationships?

Is your fear stopping you from being a success in your business?

Does your fear stop you doing things, going places, flying?

Has the fear of your fear taken over your life?

Well now it’s time to conquer your fear. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you overcome your fear. You can tap on all the aspects of your fear – the thoughts you have, the feelings you get and what your fear stops you doing.

Firstly, what does your fear look like? What sounds are associated with your fear?

What do you say to yourself when you think of your fear?

Where do you feel your fear in your body?

Now, write down your answers and use this information to help you release your fear. On a scale of 0 – 10 (where 10 is the worst fear), what is your fear score?

Below is a general tapping script addressing a fear of flying.

Aeroplane
Fear of flying

Follow along and use your fear, thoughts, words, body feelings where appropriate.  This script will help you get idea of how to tap on your fear.

  • Even though I’m terrified of flying, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I’m so scared of flying, I feel so unsafe and out of control, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
  • Even though I get this tight knot in the pit of my stomach if I just think about flying, I accept myself anyway

Eyebrow: I’m so scared of flying, I get this tight knot in my stomach
Side of Eye: I’m terrified of flying
Under Eye: I get terrible tight knot in my stomach when I think of flying
Under Nose: I’m so scared of flying
Under Chin: I hate feeling this tight knot in my stomach
Collarbone: I really don’t want to feel this fear
Under Arm: I’m so scared of flying
Top of Head: I’m terrified of flying

Ok, now take a nice easy breath.  Rate your fear again. Repeat the tapping until your score is down to 0.

There may be different aspects to your fear, different pieces of the jigsaw puzzle that make up your fear as it were. So it is important to tap on each aspect in turn. For example, with our flying fear you may have to address the following aspects:

  • Fear of crashing
  • Noise of the engines
  • Fear of heights
  • Fear of confined spaces
  • Feeling trapped
  • Feeling out of control
  • Not being able to see straight ahead
  • Vibration of the aeroplane

There could be lots of different aspects to your fear, so keep tapping until each aspect is down to 0. When you think you are done, you need to test. Visualise the thing that you were scared of. So again with our example, visualise arriving at the airport, getting your boarding card, checking in, getting onto the plane, taking your seat, putting on your seat belt, aeroplane taxi-ing to the runway, the plane taking off, etc. Visualise it as vividly as possible and keep checking in with yourself to ensure no fear is left as each stage. This ensures you haven’t missed any aspects with your tapping. If you can vividly imagine without any feelings coming up then you are ready for a real life test. Remember to be careful and not put yourself in any danger when you do this!

Enjoy your new-found freedom!

If you have a fear that you would like some help with, please contact me for a session. I work with Skype/phone anywhere in the world or face to face in Cardiff and Devon, UK.

Keep tapping!

What is stopping You Going for it?

What is Stopping You Going for it?
 
I had a recent client who was feeling stuck. I’m sure that is something we’ve all experienced at some point in our life. It’s what we do about it though that is important. Firstly, ask yourself the following questions: 

Stuck

Why do I feel stuck?

What is stopping me from going for it?
 
Has there been a similar situation in the past where I’ve felt the same?
 

This is all valuable information to help you move forward.

Here are some general statements that can help you start to clear out the stuck feelings.

  • Even though I feel really stuck, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m scared to move forward, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I’m not sure why I’m stuck, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m anxious about doing {insert action}, I’m open to the possibility it won’t be as difficult as I think it will
  • Even though I’m procrastinating, what if I found it easy to take action

My client wanted to change jobs. But he was stuck because of fear. Fear that he wouldn’t be good enough. Fear of the unknown – would his new job be better or would it be worse? Fear that he wouldn’t have the freedom he has now. Fear of the impact on his life and that of his family.
 
Fear is usually the major reason for keeping us stuck. Most of the time though, the fear is worse than actually doing it! I don’t believe in “feeling the fear and doing it anyway”. I’ve done that in the past and ok, I got through it, I survived. There is an easier way though – using EFT to address all of your fears! Here’s a tapping script that can help you address your fears.
 
Setup: Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I’m scared to do {insert action}, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I’m full of fear and I just can’t move forward, I accept all of my feelings
  • Even though I feel stuck and I’m too scared to take action, I accept all of me anyway

Eyebrow: I’m stuck and I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m full of fear
Under Eye: It’s just too scary to take action
Under Nose: I want to do {action} but I’m too scared
Under Chin: I hate feeling this fear
Collarbone: I can’t stop feeling this fear
Under Arm: I don’t want to feel scared
Top of Head: I wish I could let this fear go

Eyebrow: I’m procrastinating because I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m afraid and I’m stuck
Under Eye: {action} is too scary
Under Nose: I can’t do {action} because I’m afraid
Under Chin: I don’t want to make mistakes
Collarbone: I’ll embarrass myself if I try
Under Arm:  I’m scared and I won’t do it right
Top of Head: I wish I could stop procrastinating

Eyebrow: I’m open to the possibility it will be easier than I think
Side of Eye: What if I just tried
Under Eye: Maybe it won’t be so difficult
Under Nose: Maybe I can start with small steps
Under Chin: What if it was easy
Collarbone: Maybe I can do it
Under Arm: What if I could release my fear
Top of Head: I will do it

Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Remember to keep tapping until your fear has gone completely to zero.
 
If there are any other emotions that are coming up for you, then use EFT on them too until you feel calm and excited about taking action. Ok, so now that you have released your fear and any other emotions, what steps will you take next?
 
What are the steps you can take to achieve your outcome?
 
What is the first SMALL step that you can take?
 
What is the first BIG step that you can take?
 
When you will you achieve these steps?
 
Let me know how you get on with this – I’d love to celebrate your success with you.
 
My client completely released his fear by the end of the session. He was feeling more positive, motivated and excited about changing his job. He was now playing a different movie in his mind – a positive, empowering one that will help him move forward.

If you would like some help releasing your fears, please get in touch. I would love to help you.