Dealing with Negative Thoughts

Sometimes we have negative thoughts. We know we’re not “supposed” to have them. We can get upset when we have them, we judge them, judge ourselves, beat ourselves up and generally carry on the negative cycle some more. I have been doing some tapping on this lately. I found myself having lots of negative thoughts. I would create negative scenarios in my mind and image bad things happening. I recognised this was going on in myself and that I was judging and criticising myself too. Enough already!

So you guessed it – I tapped. I actually had help from my EFT buddy with this as I felt it was a “biggie” for me. So we tapped on:

  • The negative thoughts
  • Judgements
  • Criticism
  • Not “supposed” to have them

After awhile I could feel my body relax. I could feel more kindness towards myself. I could appreciate that part of me was trying to keep me safe. I realised that thinking these thoughts wasn’t all bad…feeling safe is important to me. If that helps me avoid dangerous situations that is a good thing.

I also realised I was creating choices for myself. I could choose how to react. I could acknowledge the negative thought, thank myself for thinking it and then let it go. I didn’t “have” to judge or criticise myself. I felt so much better after the tapping. Since then, the negative thoughts have decreased. I know that when they happen again I won’t be so hard on myself next time. ๐Ÿ™‚

Keep tapping

Just Listen

I’m referring to listening to our inner talk. Those repetitive thoughts that we have day in day out. If things aren’t the way you want them to be, you can bet that your thoughts are repetitively focusing on what you don’t want, not what you do want.

So just take the time to listen to your inner talk. Make some notes about the thoughts that you are having. It is very important to not beat yourself up because you are having ‘negative’ thoughts. Just listen and observe them. Remember that what we resist persists!

So learn your inner dialogue first. Once you know what thoughts are repeatedly going on in your mind you can focus instead on the kind of thoughts you would like to have. Write a list of the kind of thoughts that are the opposite to your negative thoughts. Write them out in a positive way.

Any time one of those old negative thoughts pops into your mind just thank it and let it go. Be gentle with yourself. Then bring to mind one of your positive thoughts for a few moments. The more you focus on those positive thoughts the more the negative ones will turn up less often.

If you find it difficult to focus on the positive and negative thoughts seem to dominate your mind then tap along with this script.

  • Even though I’m so negative all the time, I accept my feelings anyway
  • Even though my thoughts are so negative all the time, it’s a life long habit, I still accept myself anyway
  • Even though I just can’t have positive thoughts, they’re always negative, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway

Eyebrow: I canโ€™t have positive thoughts
Side of eye: My thoughts are always negative
Under eye: I’ve always had very negative thoughts
Under nose: I’ve tried to be positive before
Chin: It just didn’t work
Collarbone: My mind just brought up more negatives
Under arm: It feels like too much hard work
Top of head: It’s just easier to think negative thoughts

Eyebrow: It takes too much energy to think positively
Side of eye: It’s so hard to think positively
Under eye: I just don’t have the energy to change my thinking
Under nose: Negative thoughts are easy to me
Chin: I find it really hard to have positive thoughts
Collarbone: My mind is always negative
Under arm: It’s natural for me to think negatively
Top of head: I feels like I have to force myself to be positive

Eyebrow: I’m open to the possibility of changing this today
Side of eye: I could just try this
Under eye: Maybe it will work this time
Under nose: What if it was easier this time
Chin: I could be kinder to myself
Collarbone: I could just let those negative thoughts go
Under arm: Maybe I can practice this every day
Top of head: I could be kind and patient with myself

Remember to keep tapping until you feel at ease with changing your thoughts to be more positive. If you still find yourself having a lot of negative thoughts then do some more tapping, focusing on the cause of your negative thoughts.

Practice makes perfect!

Remember the words of Buddha:

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.”

Keep tapping!
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