We all wish we could make people change at times. Sometimes it’s our family or our partner – why can’t they be more supportive/loving etc? Sometimes it’s people we work with – why do they have to be so negative all the time? Why can’t they pull their weight etc.
Well unfortunately we can’t make other people change. What we can do is work on ourselves. We can change our attitude and the way we react and this can have a beneficial effect on our relationship with the other person.
So next time you find yourself wishing someone would change, try doing some tapping instead.
- Even though I wish Dan was more supportive and offered me more help, I’m ok
- Even though Donna is always so negative and always puts people down, maybe she’s having a hard time at home
- Even though Patrick never pulls his weight and always manages to worm his way out of doing his fair share, I accept my feelings about this
Tap on the fact that you really wish they would change & why. Tap on all the aspects of the issue, e.g. your frustration, anger, bitterness etc. Tap on specific events where they were doing the thing you wish they’d change. Keep going until you feel calm/neutral. You may have had some insights as to why they behave a certain way. Hopefully by now you will be feeling different towards them – at least more compassionately!
Remember we can only change ourselves. Tapping can always calm us down and help us with the way we react to people.