Fear of what I hear you say? Success? I know most people are familiar with fear of failure. What is often surprising though is that a lot of people also have a fear of success. So how do you go about dealing with that fear of success? Firstly, you need to understand what success means to you and the expectations you associate with it.
Think about past times in your life and the specific events when you were successful. Now if any of those upset you then use EFT to clear out the negative emotions. Try the movie technique to clear out any negativity from those events. Many people actually sabotage themselves so that they don’t achieve their success. EFT can really help you clear out this self sabotaging behaviour.
Try the following questions and write down what comes up for you…
- Success means ……………
- I fear success because ……………
- I don’t deserve success because ……………
- Last time I was successful …………… happened
- Being successful means I’ll have to ……………
- Being successful means I won’t be able to ……………
- Being successful means I’ll have to give up ……………
- Being successful means I’ll lose ……………
- I sabotage myself by doing ……………
You can now use this information and do some tapping. So, if for example, you are worried that if you are succesful you won’t have enough time for your family then tap on that. If you think you’ll have so much pressure on you to keep up that success that it will drain you until you crash and burn, then tap on that. If you think you don’t deserve to be successful, then tap on that. Tap, tap, tap!
Here is a sample tapping script that you can use. Score your fear before you start tapping (where 10 is maximum fear).
- Even though I have this fear of success, I’m open to changing that today
- Even though I’m really frightened I’ll be a success and that will put so much pressure on me that I’ll crash and burn, I acknowledge and accept my feelings
- Even though I’m so scared I’ll be a success and then I’ll have no time for my family, I’m open to finding the right balance in my life
Eyebrow: I have this fear of success
Side of eye: It seems strange to fear success
Under eye: I’m scared I’ll have all this pressure on me
Under nose: I don’t want to get so busy that I have no family life
Chin: What if the pressure is too much for me
Collarbone: What if I feel overwhelmed
Under arm: I’m scared of success
Top of head: I’m scared I’ll have no time for my family and they’ll resent me
Eyebrow: I don’t deserve success
Side of eye: There will be too much pressure on me to keep this success going
Under eye: I’ll get overwhelmed
Under nose: I’m not good enough to succeed
Chin: I’ll feel guilty that I’m not giving enough to my family
Collarbone: I don’t want to succeed and then find it all too much to handle
Under arm: I’m scared of sustaining this success
Top of head: What if my family hate me for doing so well
Eyebrow: I’m open to letting this fear go
Side of eye: I want to clear out all these doubts
Under eye: I’m open to changing this fear today
Under nose: What if I can enjoy my success
Chin: What if I can find the right balance between success and family life
Collarbone: Maybe my family will support me
Under arm: Maybe I do deserve to be successful
Top of head: I’m open to enjoying my success
Remember to use your words where appropriate. Re-check your score and keep tapping and adjusting your statements until you are down to zero. Tap on all the different aspects of your fear. Test your results when you think you are finished. Visualise yourself being successful and check that no negatives come up. If they do, then do some more tapping.
I will leave you with this amazing quote from Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Keep tapping and enjoy the success you deserve!
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5 thoughts to “Fear of Success”
Wow. What timing – I have been looking for something about this and today you’ve written about exactly that!
It only dawned on me recently that my work is very demanding, but I’m afraid of getting a promotion in case that means I will get even more work!
But now I can tap my way over that issue, ask for the promotion, get the pay rise (I hope!) and probably end up with the same amount of work – or even less now that I would be able to delegate more to others!
Thanks for all your posts – a great inspiration :o)
Timing is sometimes everything, so I’m glad the article appeared at the right time for you! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Good luck with your promotion.
Great post Lou! Really enjoy your questions. For instance, I still have a bit of tapping to do on “If I’m highly successful, I won’t be able to have lots of time for fun.”
Hey Paul, thanks so much for the feedback. Maybe try something along the lines of: Even though I worry if I’m highly successful, I won’t have lots of time for fun, I choose to be pleasantly surprised at how much fun I can have whilst being highly successful… 🙂
Are there times in your past when you were highly successful? What was the downside of those times?
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