Tag: Anxiety

Do You Dread Social Activities

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Parties, dinners, lunches, meeting for coffee…do they fill you with dread?

We’re supposed to enjoy these things right? Well that is not always the case.

Many people are filled with dread when they receive an invite. They feel they “have” to say yes because that is the “right” thing to do.  It’s difficult to say no because you then have to find an excuse as to why. Most people would rather make up an excuse than have to explain why they don’t actually want to go.

So if that sounds like you then pay attention. What exactly is it that you dread?

  • Is it not knowing what to say
  • The social etiquette
  • Do you hate eating in front of people?
  • Do you worry what people will think of you?
  • Do you fear being judged?
  • Have you had a specific event in the past that triggered your social anxiety

Whatever the answer is you can use that and do some tapping (or EFT), to help you clear these emotions, feelings and negative thoughts. Below is an example tapping script that you can use to get you started. Rate your intensity level on a scale of 0 – 10 first (10 is maximum intensity).

  • Even though I hate eating in public, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
  • Even though I hate going out with friends, because I have to eat in public and I feel so self-conscious, I’m ok
  • Even though I feel so anxious, my stomach is in knots and I feel so sick I can’t eat anyway, I totally accept all of my feelings anyway

Eyebrow: I hate eating in public
Side of Eye: I dread going out with friends
Under Eye: I really wish I could enjoy it
Under Nose: But it’s so difficult
Under Chin: I feel sick to my stomach
Collarbone: I get so anxious before I go out
Under Arm: I hate having this social anxiety
Top of Head: My stomach is in knots every time I eat out

Eyebrow: I dread eating out in restaurants
Side of Eye: I really enjoy my friends company
Under Eye: But I get so anxious going out
Under Nose: I wish I could just go out and have fun
Under Chin: My stomach gets so knotty and I feel so sick
Collarbone: This anxiety is ruining my fun
Under Arm: I wish I could relax when I go out
Top of Head: I feel so anxious it makes me feel sick

Eyebrow: Maybe I can overcome this
Side of Eye: What if I could relax and enjoy myself
Under Eye: I’m open to the possibility I can get over this
Under Nose: Maybe I can let this anxiety go
Under Chin: What if I felt safe and relaxed when I went out
Collarbone: Maybe my stomach can relax
Under Arm: What if I actually enjoyed myself
Top of Head: Maybe it’s time to let this anxiety go now

Keep tapping until you are down to zero. Then visualise yourself going out with friends and see what comes up for you now. If you feel more anxiety then do more tapping! Repeat this process until you can visualise several scenarios and feel completely calm.

To increase your success rate I highly recommend using the movie technique on specific events that triggered your social anxiety.

With some more investigation and persistent tapping you’ll be able to enjoy yourself socially like you never have done before!

Keep tapping!
Louise
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
07866 013 637

Do I have to Tap?

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Quite simply the answer is no. If you have tried EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and found that you don’t actually like the tapping sensation then there are alternatives.

  • Rub each spot instead. Repeat the tapping statements as you gently rub each spot. Always use a pressure that feels right for you.
  • Touch and Breathe (TAB) is another option – touch each spot and repeat your tapping statement. Then with your fingers still in place, take an easy breath. This is a slower almost meditative form of EFT (developed by psychologist Dr John Diepold).
  • Imagine tapping the spots as you repeat your tapping statements. This is a great way to work when you feel stressed, anxious etc in public. Just imagine you are tapping on the points whilst mentally repeating the statements.

EFT is truly a flexible transformational tool. Experiment to see which method works best for you – tapping, rubbing, touching or imagining. Personally I use a combination of these depending on the situation. If I’m in public and don’t want to be seen tapping, then I imagine the tapping.

Often I will use TAB before going to bed or in bed. This is very slow, meditative and calming – ideal to help you get a good night’s sleep. If a particular tapping point is a bit sore – I will often rub it rather than tapping on it.

Experiment and see what feels right for you.

If you would like any help with EFT then I am available for sessions via phone/Skype worldwide or face to face in Cardiff or Devon. Call me on 07866 013 637 or email me for a free consultation, to see how I can help you.

How to help Veterans

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Are you a veteran? Do you know a vet? It is estimated that 33% of the vets returning home suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(Rand Corp report 2008). Many of these men and women are suffering alone with no-one to help them. They are suffering from:

  • Hyper vigilance
  • Hyper arousal
  • Nightmares/Flashbacks
  • Insomnia
  • Alcohol/drug addiction/dependency
  • Depression
  • Stress/anxiety
  • Relationship problems

The traditional approach of drug administration just seems to make them worse. Now, there is an alternative answer. Gary Craig’s long-awaited vet film has been released:

Operation: Emotional Freedom

http://www.operation-emotionalfreedom.com/index.html

This important documentary film examines how veterans in America diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) are currently treated.  The film shows a new approach to healing PTSD and trauma using energy psychology (EFT) instead. It follows a group of volunteer vets and their families on this incredible healing journey.

Find out more now how you can help a vet. Visit the website and watch trailers. Purchase the film and spread the word about this important approach to helping our vets now.

What is stopping You Going for it?

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What is Stopping You Going for it?
 
I had a recent client who was feeling stuck. I’m sure that is something we’ve all experienced at some point in our life. It’s what we do about it though that is important. Firstly, ask yourself the following questions: 

Stuck

Why do I feel stuck?

What is stopping me from going for it?
 
Has there been a similar situation in the past where I’ve felt the same?
 

This is all valuable information to help you move forward.

Here are some general statements that can help you start to clear out the stuck feelings.

  • Even though I feel really stuck, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m scared to move forward, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I’m not sure why I’m stuck, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m anxious about doing {insert action}, I’m open to the possibility it won’t be as difficult as I think it will
  • Even though I’m procrastinating, what if I found it easy to take action

My client wanted to change jobs. But he was stuck because of fear. Fear that he wouldn’t be good enough. Fear of the unknown – would his new job be better or would it be worse? Fear that he wouldn’t have the freedom he has now. Fear of the impact on his life and that of his family.
 
Fear is usually the major reason for keeping us stuck. Most of the time though, the fear is worse than actually doing it! I don’t believe in “feeling the fear and doing it anyway”. I’ve done that in the past and ok, I got through it, I survived. There is an easier way though – using EFT to address all of your fears! Here’s a tapping script that can help you address your fears.
 
Setup: Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I’m scared to do {insert action}, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I’m full of fear and I just can’t move forward, I accept all of my feelings
  • Even though I feel stuck and I’m too scared to take action, I accept all of me anyway

Eyebrow: I’m stuck and I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m full of fear
Under Eye: It’s just too scary to take action
Under Nose: I want to do {action} but I’m too scared
Under Chin: I hate feeling this fear
Collarbone: I can’t stop feeling this fear
Under Arm: I don’t want to feel scared
Top of Head: I wish I could let this fear go

Eyebrow: I’m procrastinating because I’m scared
Side of Eye: I’m afraid and I’m stuck
Under Eye: {action} is too scary
Under Nose: I can’t do {action} because I’m afraid
Under Chin: I don’t want to make mistakes
Collarbone: I’ll embarrass myself if I try
Under Arm:  I’m scared and I won’t do it right
Top of Head: I wish I could stop procrastinating

Eyebrow: I’m open to the possibility it will be easier than I think
Side of Eye: What if I just tried
Under Eye: Maybe it won’t be so difficult
Under Nose: Maybe I can start with small steps
Under Chin: What if it was easy
Collarbone: Maybe I can do it
Under Arm: What if I could release my fear
Top of Head: I will do it

Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Remember to keep tapping until your fear has gone completely to zero.
 
If there are any other emotions that are coming up for you, then use EFT on them too until you feel calm and excited about taking action. Ok, so now that you have released your fear and any other emotions, what steps will you take next?
 
What are the steps you can take to achieve your outcome?
 
What is the first SMALL step that you can take?
 
What is the first BIG step that you can take?
 
When you will you achieve these steps?
 
Let me know how you get on with this – I’d love to celebrate your success with you.
 
My client completely released his fear by the end of the session. He was feeling more positive, motivated and excited about changing his job. He was now playing a different movie in his mind – a positive, empowering one that will help him move forward.

If you would like some help releasing your fears, please get in touch. I would love to help you.

I’m Not Good Enough

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Have you ever said “I’m not good enough”. Do you ever get held back at work because you think you’re not capable, or you fear making mistakes or failing? Maybe you haven’t asked someone out because you didn’t think you were good enough for them. Or maybe you don’t put yourself forward for things with your friends or family because you’re afraid you’ll disappoint them. These are things we have all felt at one time or another. It’s what you do (or don’t do!) about it that matters! EFT can help all of these feelings. The key is to make a note of these feelings and thoughts as they come up and tap on them.

You also need a bit of dedication and persistence too. Often people do not get results with EFT because they give up too quickly. One minute wonders do sometimes happen with EFT but most often you need to tap consistently for an hour or more. This can be done in several sessions – you just need to commit to doing the tapping!

Here’s a tapping script that will help.

Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I think I’m not good enough, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m scared of failing, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I worry I’ll disappoint people, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings

Eyebrow: I’m not good enough
Side of Eye: I’m not as capable as others
Under Eye: I’m scared I’ll fail
Under Nose: I think I’ll disappoint people
Under Chin: I’m just not good enough
Collarbone: I hate feeling like this
Under Arm: I worry I’ll make a fool of myself
Top of Head: I’m not good enough for them

Eyebrow: I’ll fail I know I will
Side of Eye: I’ll make too many mistakes
Under Eye: I just can’t do it
Under Nose: I’m not good enough
Under Chin: I wish I could believe in myself
Collarbone: I’m worried I’ll fail
Under Arm: I wish I didn’t feel like this
Top of Head: I’m a disappointment to people

Eyebrow: What if I could do it
Side of Eye: Maybe I won’t fail
Under Eye: What if I just tried
Under Nose: Maybe I won’t disappoint people
Under Chin: What if I did succeed
Collarbone: Maybe I can believe in myself
Under Arm: What if I am good enough
Top of Head: I can do it

Remember to keep tapping until you feel better. Keep tapping on all the different things that are causing this feeling. Think back into the past and try to recall the first time you felt this way. What was going on for you back then? Tap on those events, feelings or thoughts, to get to the root of this problem.

Alex Reid uses EFT

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Alex Reid, (Katy Price’s husband) is a tapper! The cage fighter has an EFT trainer who helps him deal with stress and “sort his head out”.  He has suggested that X-Factor judge Cheryl Cole use his Emotional Freedom Technique Trainer to help her de-stress following her split from footballer Ashley Cole.

Reid stated: “I have to say a special thanks to Dennis, my EFT trainer. That stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. He’s like a therapist and has really helped me deal with the trials and tribulations of my new celebrity life! ”

Let’s hope that Cheryl takes his advice and gains the benefits of EFT. EFT is an amazing technique that can help you deal with:

  • Negative emotions
  • Relationship problems
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Self-esteem
  • Confidence

All of these issues can come up when you split with a partner or are going through a divorce. I know – I’ve been there! If only I’d had EFT at the time – life would have been so much better.

No Smoking Day 10th March 2010

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Ok, so it’s No Smoking Day again on March 10th. You’ve tried to quit before but failed. You find it really difficult to control your cravings & you get irritable when you’re suffering from withdrawal symptoms.

Maybe you’ve stockpiled patches or gum to help you get through the day. Or maybe you’ve decided to take the day off because you just know you won’t be able to make it through a whole day without smoking and you don’t want the hassle off people…

If any of that sounds familiar to you then there is a different solution out there! EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you quit smoking the easy way:

  • Control your cravings
  • No willpower required
  • No patches or gum
  • Ease your withdrawal symptoms
  • Deal with reasons why you smoke
  • Ease the anxiety of losing your comforter
  • Address your concerns about failing or indeed succeeding!
  • Deal with your identity as a smoker
  • Empower yourself as a healthy non-smoker

For more information on how I can help you give up smoking, please go to my stop smoking page.

You can give me a call on 07866 013 637 for a free confidential, no obligation chat. Or use the contact form to drop me a line. Maybe you’re ready to find out how easy it is to stop smoking with EFT.

Christmas Preparations

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Christmas should be a wonderful time of year.  Spending time with loved ones, giving and receiving gifts and sharing special meals with friends.  In reality though, there is often a lot of stress and anxiety involved.  There is too much to do in too little time, worries about not having enough money, fears and anxieties about not getting the “right” presents for people, whether the food will be cooked to perfection, will Aunt Joan wind up your father-in-law….and the list goes on.

So instead of just ploughing through the list of chores and letting the stress pile up so that it makes it almost impossible for you to enjoy the festive season, I suggest you make a little time for some different preparations…preparing you!

Tapping Script for Christmas Peace:

Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I’ve got way too much to do and not enough time to do it in and I’m feeling really stressed about Christmas, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m worried that I won’t get it all finished in time, I accept myself and how I feel about this Christmas
  • Even though I don’t know how I’m going to pay for Christmas this year and it’s so hard finding presents on a budget, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings of inadequacy

Eyebrow: I’ve still got way too many things to do
Side of Eye: I should’ve started shopping earlier
Under Eye: Why didn’t I get more organised
Under Nose: I’ve left it to the last minute again
Under Chin: I’m so stressed about Christmas
Collarbone: I don’t get enough help with all the preparations
Under Arm: When will I learn to start preparing earlier
Top of Head: I’ve got too many presents to buy still

Eyebrow: I’m going to be working so hard on Christmas Eve
Side of Eye: I don’t think I’ve bought the right presents for people
Under Eye: There’s too much pressure on me
Under Nose: I can’t afford Christmas!
Under Chin: I don’t have enough money to buy presents
Collarbone: Why can’t my husband/wife/partner help me?
Under Arm: Christmas is too stressful
Top of Head: I hate all this pressure to do everything perfectly

Eyebrow: What if I could stop feeling so stressed
Side of Eye: Maybe if I was calmer, I’d get more done
Under Eye: What if I wrote a list and get more organised
Under Nose: Maybe I can get some help
Under Chin: Maybe I’m putting too much pressure on myself
Collarbone: What if I appreciated the really important things
Under Arm: What if I don’t have to do everything perfectly
Top of Head: What if I made some thoughtful presents instead of buying stuff people don’t want anyway

Keep tapping until you feel calm and peaceful.  If any particular stress or anxieties come up then make sure that you tap on them too.

Tapping Suggestions:

  • Not having enough money to buy presents, food, drink, party clothes etc
  • Worries about spending time with certain family members, arguments
  • Losing the real meaning of Christmas and all the commercialism
  • Missing a loved one or being separated from loved ones at Christmas
  • Not having enough time to relax, pressures of having to visit lots of people etc
  • Having to travel long distances

I wish you a wonderful, calm and peaceful Christmas!

Welcome to Devon EFT

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Would You Like To Achieve Emotional Freedom? 

Are Stress, Anxiety Or Panic Attacks Causing You Misery? 

I would love to help you beat your stress, overcome your anxiety and put an end to your panic attacks.  If you are having relationship problems, I can help you deal with the emotional issues and get your relationship back on track.  If you are limited by a fear or phobia, just imagine how much more you will get out of life if you let me help you put it behind you.

Louise Woods Devon EFTMy name is Louise Woods and I hope to inspire you to try EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or tapping as it is commonly referred to. I’m an EFT practitioner who loves to share the gift of EFT with others. EFT has helped me let go of years of stress, fears, relationship problems and much more. I would be honoured to teach you EFT so that you can get the benefits I have experienced.

Try EFT for yourself or give me a call and let me help you now. I offer telephone sessions worldwide or face to face sessions in Devon.

Call me now to book your appointment.  Tel: 07866 013 637

Not sure if EFT can help you?  Please give me a call for a free chat.

This site represents the views and ways of working with EFT of Louise Woods and not necessarily those of Gary Craig. Gary Craig’s original version of EFT and complete training can be found at http://www.emofree.com/