Many people learn EFT and use it successfully to create a big shift in their life, e.g. overcome a fear, give up smoking or lose weight. Once they have achieved their goal they tend to forget about EFT. EFT is not just a tool for issues such as those already mentioned. It is very much a tool for everyday use. Most people face stress every day. Most people have some sort of challenge every day. It doesn’t matter what the size of the challenge or the stress, it is usually best to deal with it there and then if you can so that you can let it go. By not clearing our daily stress and emotions they tend to build up and build up. Eventually we start to feel overwhelmed. Think of a situation where you “lost it” over something trivial – e.g. dropping the milk. We know it’s not dropping the milk that has caused us to “lose it”, but all the other challenges, stress, niggles and emotions leading up to dropping the milk. So rather than waiting to deal with things until they seem overwhelming, it is much better for us to deal with them on a daily basis and prevent the overwhelm.
My advice is to make EFT a part of every day. Every day we wash and brush our teeth and hair etc. Making EFT a part of your daily routine can really help you reduce your overwhelm, stress and help you handle things much more calmly and easily. So make EFT a part of your daily routine and enjoy the benefits!
Ever have one of those weeks when everything seems to happen at once? It can seem like things are quiet for months and then suddenly loads of stuff seems to happen in the same week. What is that all about? I’m having one of those weeks this week! I am moving house and have also taken on extra work and had extra clients. How am I coping? Well, I’ll admit I’ve had the odd “wobbly” moment. But I’ve also had EFT to help me too. I know looking back at other times I’ve had like this that I had a tendency to have lots of “wobbly” moments and collapse in a big heap at the end of it! Burnt out and battered would be a good description of how I felt at the end of those busy periods.
Thankfully that doesn’t happen any more because I now use EFT to help me cope. Ok I can’t actually change things so that they are less busy (I would if I could!) but I can tap to help me stay calm and centered. It helps me put things into perspective and see the bigger picture. It can be useful to tap before things get too busy to prepare the way as it were for the busy times ahead. Then you can tap during your busy times when things start to feel like they are getting too much.
I often tap in the car whilst I am driving. In addition to helping me let go of any stress, anxiety and feeling snowed under etc, it helps me focus on my journey more easily. As I tap I can feel my body relax, my shoulders drop, my breathing get deeper and slower. I use finger tapping normally as this allows me to keep both hands on the wheel and tap the fingertips of one hand safely. In addition to this I will also tap at home working through all the emotions I am feeling and the physical sensations in my body (e.g tense, tight shoulders).
So, remember we can’t always change our circumstances but we can always choose how we handle them!
A Must See Video On the Power of the Mind with Bruce Lipton
Would you like to know why EFT works and why it’s so effective? 🙂
Well Bruce Lipton, a cellular biologist and best-selling author, is about to explain to you why he considers EFT to be like “super learning”.
In this fascinating video Bruce will explain to you how your thoughts can make you sick, broke and unhappy, why regular “positive thinking” doesn’t work and how you can use EFT to reprogram your mind to get what you want in life.
Bruce Lipton is a cellular biologist who has spent years studying how our thoughts affect us in all areas of life.
His scientific studies are so shocking and revealing and have such wide-ranging ramifications that the established communities have gone to great lengths to keep them hidden, especially the medical community.
Bruce Lipton has out-right said that the majority of medical studies done today are inaccurate and misleading and he has the proof to show why.
If you’re ready for some mind-blowing information on how your thoughts effect all areas of your life and how you can use EFT to be healthy, wealthy and happy then I highly suggest watching this video:
P.S. – This video is part of the fr*ee Tapping World Summit Video series being released over the next few days leading up to this enormous event starting
on Feb. 21st (Last year over 100,000 people attended this event online)
If you missed the first video with Jack Canfield on how your past traumas and negative emotions may be keeping you from attracting what you want in life you’ll get access to that video as well when you see this one. Both are very powerful…
I was recently working with a new client who was new to EFT. After explaining the technique and tapping through a few rounds he experienced a noticeable shift. He felt more relaxed (a common result) and also had a cognitive shift regarding his issue.
He said that the way we had tapped was like having a conversation with himself. He explained that he was always having these conversations with himself anyway, so it would be great to tap at the same time to clear out the energy disruption and emotions involved.
Previously he had been explained EFT in a very mechanical way. The person had given him the words to use and repeat on each tapping point. E.g. this craving. Whilst that is one way of working, it doesn’t leave room for being creative and letting the words flow like in a conversation.
I’ve blogged in the past about people worrying about “the right words” to use and I thought the idea of having a conversation with yourself might just explain it even better. So next time that something is bothering you, notice the conversation you are having with yourself and tap! Just keep tapping as you go through your conversation. All those things you are telling yourself. Perhaps you are weighing up the pros and cons of a decision or a talking to yourself about a behaviour you do. Perhaps you are trying to figure out how to speak to someone about an issue, or how to approach a situation. Just start tapping whilst you are having this conversation with yourself. You may feel energy move in your body, feel calmer, yawn or be able to laugh at yourself. All these can indicate a shift. Keep tapping until you feel a shift occur and there is more clarity or a resolution.
You can also begin to notice any negative self talk you do as well. E.g. notice when you say to yourself – I’m not good enough for that, I’m not clever enough to go for that job, I don’t deserve that promotion etc. Again when you begin to notice the self talk you can tap any time you notice it, acknowledge it and let it go. You can even say “I now release these thoughts” as you tap.
Do you hate waiting for things? I’m referring to things like a job offer, a promotion, moving house or going on holiday. Or maybe it’s the smaller things that really try your patience like waiting for a bus, waiting in the traffic or waiting at the dentists. Is there a difference in your patience? Do you have more patience for bigger events and less for the mundane things? Or is it the other way around?
What things do you do whilst you have to wait? What emotions are present when you are waiting? Frustration, anger, fear, guilt? Make a note of your feelings around these issues so that you can compare with how you feel after you have done some tapping on the issue.
So, as usual, write down your score on a scale of 0 -10 (where 10 is maximum impatience).
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I hate waiting for things, I’m willing to accept myself anyway
Even though I get so frustrated and angry when I’m waiting, I’m open to accepting myself anyway
Even though I have no patience, I accept how I feel anyway
Eyebrow: I hate waiting Side of Eye: It makes me angry and grumpy Under Eye: It’s so frustrating waiting Under Nose: I have no patience Chin: I get so mad if I have to wait Collarbone: It frustrates me waiting for things Under Arm: I don’t have any patience Top of Head: It feels like I’m wasting my life waiting
Eyebrow: I can’t sit still when I’m waiting Side of Eye: I have to keep checking how much time has passed Under Eye: and how much time is left to go Under Nose: I find it so annoying Chin: It makes me so mad Collarbone: It really winds me up waiting Under Arm: I find myself fidgeting and pacing back and forth Top of Head: I have no patience and hate waiting
Eyebrow: I’m open to feeling different about waiting Side of Eye: What if I could feel calmer about waiting Under Eye: Maybe I can feel less frustrated Under Nose: I’m open to having more patience Chin: What if I could do something constructive when I have to wait Collarbone: Maybe I won’t get angry and frustrated Under Arm: What if I found it easier to wait Top of Head: I’m open to letting it be easy to feel patient
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you no longer feel so impatient. I’d love to hear your feedback, so please leave a comment.
Does it always seem like a struggle for you to lose weight? Is it always an uphill battle? Does it seem like you have to fight your willpower? Do you feel the pounds pile on when you just look at a cake or chocolate bar?
Have you tried lots of different diets? Have you started them with full enthusiasm and then given up by the time the week is out?
It’s no wonder 95% of diets fail. We are always going to battle our willpower if we have to limit our calorie intake and avoid eating certain foods. We know that on a bad day, it is just too easy to think “sod it” and grab a chocolate bar or biscuit.
Lose weight with EFT
Instead, we can forget about calorie counting, cabbage eating (unless you enjoy cabbage that is!) and watching the “sins” we eat. We can utilise the power of EFT instead and lose weight the easy way.
Here’s a script that can help you if you feel it is just too hard to lose weight and you have failed so many times in the past that you think you’ll fail again.
Rate your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first, where 10 is it feels impossible to lose weight or you’re convinced you’ll fail again.
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though it feels impossible for me to lose weight, I’m willing to accept myself anyway
Even though I feel it’s too hard for me to lose weight, I’m open to accepting myself anyway
Even though I think there’s no point as I’ll just give up and feel like a failure again, I accept how I feel about this
Eyebrow: It’s impossible for me to lose weight Side of Eye: It takes too much effort Under Eye: It’s too difficult to stick to healthy food Under Nose: I don’t want to fail yet again Chin: I fail every time Collarbone: It takes too much energy for me to lose weight Under Arm: I don’t have enough self-control Top of Head: I hate fighting my willpower
Eyebrow: There’s too much temptation everywhere I look Side of Eye: Why is it so difficult for me to lose weight? Under Eye: I hate feeling hunger all the time Under Nose: I love my food too much Chin: It feels like an uphill battle for me to lose weight Collarbone: I hate struggling to lose weight Under Arm: I’ve tried so many diets Top of Head: I always end up quitting and feeling like a failure
Eyebrow: I’m open to trying something different Side of Eye: What if I could change how I feel about food Under Eye: Maybe I can feel satisfied eating less Under Nose: I’m open to changing my relationship with food Chin: What if I could feel comforted without eating Collarbone: Maybe I won’t fail this time Under Arm: What if I it was easier this time Top of Head: I’m open to letting it be easy this time
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you no longer feel it is impossible to lose weight or that you’ll fail again. I’d love to hear your feedback, so please leave a comment.
I know, you said you wouldn’t do it this year. But it is very difficult not to over-indulge at Christmas. When you visit family especially they always seem to insist you eat and drink a lot! Even if you don’t necessarily eat more, what you do eat tends to be richer and more calorie laden! You try your best and yet you somehow manage to put on at least a few pounds. Well now that the new year is here, it’s time to shift those extra Christmas pounds.
So take some time out, sit down for a few minutes and do some tapping. Here is a tapping script that can help you. Write down your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first (where 10 is maximum guilt/disappointment etc).
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I feel so guilty for putting on weight at Christmas again, I’m willing to accept myself anyway
Even though I feel disappointed with myself because I over-indulged again, I’m willing to forgive myself
Even though I feel sad that I’ve put this weight on, when I was doing so well, I love and accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: Why did I have to over-indulge? Side of Eye: I’m so disappointed with myself Under Eye: I feel so guilty that I ate too much Under Nose: Why do I put weight on so easily Chin: I feel sad now when I look in the mirror Collarbone: Getting on the scales makes me mad with myself Under Arm: I should have had more self-control Top of Head: I should have tried harder to say no
Eyebrow: But it’s so difficult with all the parties Side of Eye: Everyone else is eating and drinking Under Eye: I feel so bad when I try to not do the same Under Nose: I feel pressured to eat as much as everyone else Chin: It seems rude to not eat at a party Collarbone: When they’ve gone to all that trouble Under Arm: I hate myself for eating too much Top of Head: I find it so hard to stop eating once I start
Eyebrow: I’m open to thinking about this differently Side of Eye: What if I could give myself a break Under Eye: Maybe I did my best under the circumstances Under Nose: Christmas is a tempting time Chin: What if I can shift these extra Christmas pounds Collarbone: Maybe I can lose this extra weight easily Under Arm: What if I enjoyed losing this Christmas weight Top of Head: I’m open to enjoying myself as I shift these Christmas pounds
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you no longer feel any guilt, disappointment or sadness. If you feel a craving for a specific food then tap along with my video. If you would like some help losing weight with EFT then please do get in touch.
I know, you said you wouldn’t do it this year. But it is very difficult not to over-indulge at Christmas. When you visit family especially they always seem to insist you eat and drink a lot! Even if you don’t necessarily eat more, what you do eat tends to be richer and more calorie laden! You try your best and yet you somehow manage to put on at least a few pounds. Well now that the new year is here, it’s time to shift those extra Christmas pounds.
So take some time out, sit down for a few minutes and do some tapping. Here is a tapping script that can help you. Write down your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first (where 10 is maximum guilt/disappointment etc).
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I feel so guilty for putting on weight at Christmas again, I’m willing to accept myself anyway
Even though I feel disappointed with myself because I over-indulged again, I’m willing to forgive myself
Even though I feel sad that I’ve put this weight on, when I was doing so well, I love and accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: Why did I have to over-indulge?
Side of Eye: I’m so disappointed with myself
Under Eye: I feel so guilty that I ate too much Under Nose: Why do I put weight on so easily
Chin: I feel sad now when I look in the mirror Collarbone: Getting on the scales makes me mad with myself
Under Arm: I should have had more self-control
Top of Head: I should have tried harder to say no
Eyebrow: But it’s so difficult with all the parties Side of Eye: Everyone else is eating and drinking
Under Eye: I feel so bad when I try to not do the same Under Nose: I feel pressured to eat as much as everyone else
Chin: It seems rude to not eat at a party
Collarbone: When they’ve gone to all that trouble
Under Arm: I hate myself for eating too much
Top of Head: I find it so hard to stop eating once I start
Eyebrow: I’m open to thinking about this differently Side of Eye: What if I could give myself a break Under Eye: Maybe I did my best under the circumstances Under Nose: Christmas is a tempting time
Chin: What if I can shift these extra Christmas pounds
Collarbone: Maybe I can lose this extra weight easily Under Arm: What if I enjoyed losing this Christmas weight
Top of Head: I’m open to enjoying myself as I shift these Christmas pounds
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you no longer feel any guilt, disappointment or sadness. If you feel a craving for a specific food then tap along with my video. If you would like some help losing weight with EFT then please do get in touch.
Energy what? Energy toning. In other words, toning our energy system. When we exercise we tone our physical body. This is the equivalent for our energy body. This is a concept developed by Steve Wells and Dr. David Lake in their SET or Simple Energy Techniques system. You can continually tap on the points whilst you focus on an issue or just continuously tap on the points without focusing on anything. They noticed that participants who continuously tapped through their workshops got better results.
This continuous tapping is a great way to help you feel calmer and more balanced every day. One of the easiest ways to do this continuous tapping is to use just the finger points. These are mostly left out now by more EFT practitioners. Use your thumb to tap on the finger points on the same hand. You can either do one hand at a time or both hands together. Some suggestions for when to do this:
Stressful meeting at work
Stuck in rush hour traffic
Watching TV
Stuck in a queue at the supermarket
Whilst walking
There are so many ways you fit this in to your daily life. Because you don’t need to repeat setup statements and reminder phrases it is easy to do in public and not be seen. The finger points are particularly useful and very discreet. No-one will know you are tapping!
I have made a commitment to do more continual finger tapping myself this year. Already I have found myself feeling calmer and responding to situations in a more thoughtful, rather than reactionary way.
I would love to hear your experiences with this. Please drop me a comment with your feedback.
I’ve signed up to post a blog every week in 2011. I am looking forward to writing more posts and challenging myself to writing more than one a week whenever possible.
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You can help me out by leaving a comment about what topics you’d like to see here. If you have a particular issue in mind, let me know and I can write a tapping script. I love creating tapping scripts and it’s wonderful to share them here so that others benefit.
If you already enjoy my blog I hope you’ll encourage me with comments and likes and tell your friends.
Something that has come up quite a bit with my clients lately is feeling guilt or shame about needing help. I will jump into a tapping script that can help this issue in just a bit. But first, I’d like to say that admitting to yourself you need help takes a lot of courage! So if you feel like this, perhaps for just a minute you can appreciate yourself for having the courage to admitting you’d like some help.
Help wanted?
Many people struggle for years and never get the help they need. They may eventually become ill or have a breakdown of some sorts that “forces” them to get the help they need. There is so much pressure on us these days to be Superman or Wonderwoman! All the stress from our jobs, families, relationships etc. We live in a very fast paced society which is go, go all the time. Sometimes we need to take a step back, retreat from the world and look after ourselves.
Admitting you need help is not a weakness. It is a wonderful way of honouring your needs. We all deserve to feel healthy, happy and fulfilled. If something is not working for us we need to address it. Having someone who is not directly involved gives us wonderful insights and allows us to see things from a different perspective. We often can’t see the wood through the trees by ourselves.
So onto the tapping script. Write down your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first (where 10 is maximum guilt/shame).
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I feel so ashamed that I need help and I can’t sort my own life out, I’m open to accepting myself anyway
Even though I should be able to handle this by myself and I feel so guilty that I can’t, I accept my feelings about this anyway
Even though I feel so much guilt and shame because I can’t cope with life and I need to get help off someone else, I’m willing to accept my feelings
Eyebrow: I should be able to handle this myself Side of Eye: I feel ashamed I need help Under Eye: I can’t cope with this by myself Under Nose: I feel so guilty for needing this help Chin: Everyone else seems to cope ok Collarbone: Why can’t I cope? Under Arm: I’m ashamed I can’t cope Top of Head: I feel guilty because I can’t deal with this alone
Eyebrow: I wish I could cope with this alone Side of Eye: Why do I need this help? Under Eye: I feel at the end of my tether Under Nose: I can’t cope on my own and I feel ashamed Chin: It’s too much for me to deal with by myself Collarbone: But I feel so much shame for needing this help Under Arm: I hate feeling this shame and guilt Top of Head: But I really do need help and can’t cope by myself
Eyebrow: I’m open to thinking about this differently Side of Eye: What if felt ok about having this help Under Eye: Maybe other people need help too Under Nose: Maybe I don’t have to deal with this on my own Chin: What if was ok to have this help Collarbone: Maybe others are getting help but I don’t realise it Under Arm: What if I enjoyed getting some help Top of Head: I’m open to accepting this help and letting go of this shame and guilt
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you feel no more shame or guilt.
Think about times in the past, when you have wanted help and couldn’t get it or it wasn’t deemed acceptable for you to have help. Working on these specific memories can help heal your current beliefs.
Happy New Year. I hope you have had a lovely Christmas. Wishing you a wonderful 2011.
It might just seem like a strange idea for me to suggest you don’t make any new year’s resolutions. I have good reasons:
People usually make them halfheartedly
They are usually very generic and not specific, e.g. lose weight, go to the gym more, eat more healthily
People set too many at the same time
Most people give up by the end of January
You see the trouble is, people often make new year’s resolutions not because they want to but because they feel they have to. People ask what your new year’s resolution is and they feel they have to give an answer.
Goals
Instead of just giving a generic answer like lose weight, how about you actually spend some time instead working out proper, specific goals. Use the SMART way of writing your goal – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely. Always include a date for your goal and a measurable outcome.
Think about what it is you actually want to achieve. How do you want to feel? So instead of just saying I want to lose weight, you could set a goal like this instead:
By 31st March 2011 I will weigh ………. (insert your goal weight).
Now write down how you will look, feel and any sounds that are important to your goal (e.g. hearing people congratulate you on how good you look). Put your goal somewhere where you will see it. Read it regularly.
If it seems too big, then break it down into smaller steps.
E.g. By 14th January I will weigh ……….(insert intermediate goal weight). Repeat these smaller goals, until you have achieved your bigger goal.
It is also important to congratulate yourself and celebrate your success. So have something specific in mind for when you have achieved your goal. For example, you could treat yourself to a new outfit when you have reached your ideal weight, or a new hairstyle. Whatever it is this will help with your motivation towards achieving your goal.
Write out your goals now and how you want to feel when you have achieved them. In upcoming articles I will be writing more about using EFT to help you lose weight. EFT can be used to help you achieve any goal. You can use EFT to help you if you are struggling with motivation, lack of confidence, not believing in yourself, failures in the past etc. It really is a flexible tool that can help you in many different ways to achieve your goals.
“A New Year’s resolution is something that goes in one year and out the other.”
Here’s to your success.
“A New Year’s resolution is something that goes in one year and out the other.”
It is that busy time of year again! There is always lots to do – presents to buy and wrap, food to prepare, parties to attend, work to complete, family to visit etc. We can feel like we are being pulled in all different directions and like there is not enough hours in the day! We often feel overwhelmed and stressed and can get so caught up in the material things that we forget the spirit of Christmas (and I’m not talking about the alcoholic variety).
Christmas tree
So take some time out, sit down for a few minutes and do some tapping. Here is a tapping script that can help you. Write down your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first (where 10 is maximum stress/overwhelm etc).
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I’m so stressed about Christmas and everything I have to do, I still deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I still have loads of shopping to do, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Even though I feel overwhelmed by my to-do list, I love and accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: I’m stressed about Christmas Side of Eye: I’m so overwhelmed by my to-do list Under Eye: I’ve got way too much to do Under Nose: And not enough hours in the day Chin: I’ll never get it all done Collarbone: Why didn’t I start earlier? Under Arm: I always leave it to the last minute Top of Head: It’s always a rush and panic at the end
Eyebrow: I wish I could plan things better Side of Eye: Why do I have to do everything anyway? Under Eye: I feel so stressed, I’ve got so much to do Under Nose: I don’t have the time to buy all the presents, Chin: all the food, prepare the house, do the wrapping Collarbone: It’s all too much for me to do Under Arm: I hate feeling so stressed about Christmas Top of Head: I can’t enjoy myself because I’ve got too much to do
Eyebrow: I’m open to thinking about this differently Side of Eye: What if could prioritise my to-do list Under Eye: Maybe I can get some help off my family Under Nose: Maybe I can take some time out to prioritise Chin: What if I can feel calmer about my to-do list Collarbone: Maybe I can get it all done if my family helps me Under Arm: What if I enjoyed getting some help Top of Head: I’m open to enjoying myself as I do all these things
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you feel calmer and more centered.
EFT is always there for us right at our fingertips, ready to help us when we need it. Remember that you need to look after yourself this Christmas. Making some time every day (even for 5 minutes) will help you stay calm and able to cope with all the extra things you need to do at this busy time of year.
It is that busy time of year again! There is always lots to do – presents to buy and wrap, food to prepare, parties to attend, work to complete, family to visit etc. We can feel like we are being pulled in all different directions and like there is not enough hours in the day! We often feel overwhelmed and stressed and can get so caught up in the material things that we forget the spirit of Christmas (and I’m not talking about the alcoholic variety).
So take some time out, sit down for a few minutes and do some tapping. Here is a tapping script that can help you. Write down your score on a scale of 0 – 10 first (where 10 is maximum stress/overwhelm etc).
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I’m so stressed about Christmas and everything I have to do, I still deeply and completely accept myself
Even though I still have loads of shopping to do, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Even though I feel overwhelmed by my to-do list, I love and accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: I’m stressed about Christmas
Side of Eye: I’m so overwhelmed by my to-do list
Under Eye: I’ve got way too much to do Under Nose: And not enough hours in the day
Chin: I’ll never get it all done Collarbone: Why didn’t I start earlier?
Under Arm: I always leave it to the last minute
Top of Head: It’s always a rush and panic at the end
Eyebrow: I wish I could plan things better Side of Eye: Why do I have to do everything anyway?
Under Eye: I feel so stressed, I’ve got so much to do Under Nose: I don’t have the time to buy all the presents,
Chin: all the food, prepare the house, do the wrapping
Collarbone: It’s all too much for me to do
Under Arm: I hate feeling so stressed about Christmas
Top of Head: I can’t enjoy myself because I’ve got too much to do
Eyebrow: I’m open to thinking about this differently Side of Eye: What if could prioritise my to-do list Under Eye: Maybe I can get some help off my family Under Nose: Maybe I can take some time out to prioritise
Chin: What if I can feel calmer about my to-do list
Collarbone: Maybe I can get it all done if my family helps me Under Arm: What if I enjoyed getting some help
Top of Head: I’m open to enjoying myself as I do all these things
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Keep tapping until you feel calmer and more centered.
One of the things that people regularly say when they start tapping is “Am I doing it right?”. The good news is that EFT is very flexible. The most important thing to remember is that you need to stay tuned in to the feelings you are working on and tap on the points on the body.
Sometimes you will need to be persistent. This is my Top Tip!
“Keep tapping until you feel better”.
Here are some different ways you can try doing EFT:
Tap whilst repeating out loud how you feel
Tap whilst repeating how you feel in your mind
Tap slowly on each point repeating your reminder phrase several times
Tap faster on each point just repeating your reminder phrase once
Tap really lightly on each point
Tap using a bit more pressure on each point (make sure it’s not too hard though – it should not hurt!)
Tap using both hands tapping both sides of the body
Tap with one hand, tapping the opposite side of the body (i.e. left hand taps right eyebrow, right side of eye etc)
You can either repeat the same reminder phrase on each tapping point or say different phrases related to your particular issue on each point – experiment and see which works best for you. It usually helps if you write down how you feel using keywords and phrases and tap whilst reading the words you have written.
I hope that these tips help you relax and enjoy tapping even more. If you have any questions or feedback then please leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you.
One thing that is guaranteed in this world is change. Sometimes it’s a change that we want and welcome. Other times we have changes forced upon us and we fight them. Even when it’s a change we want, we can experience resistance and negative emotions. How do we deal with all of that? EFT is there for us as usual, right at our fingertips. Here’s a tapping script that you might find useful to help you cope with change.
Tap on the Karate Chop spot on either hand whilst repeating out loud these 3 setups (or change the words to suit your situation):
Even though this change feels so hard and uncomfortable, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Even though I didn’t want this change and I don’t want to have to deal with it, I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel
Even though this change feels so difficult and I want things to stay the way they are, I choose to accept who I am and how I feel
Eyebrow: This change is so difficult and uncomfortable Side of eye: I’m so upset by this change Under eye: I don’t want this change Under nose: I didn’t choose this change Chin: Changes never work out for me Collarbone: I’m so resistant to this change Under arm: I wish this change didn’t have to happen Top of head: Why can’t things stay the same?
Repeat the above several times or change the words to suit how you feel, until you feel a reduction in the intensity. If you feel ready you can tap on these statements which focus on the solution:
Eyebrow: Maybe this change will be easier Side of eye: Maybe this time the change is for the best Under eye: What if this time it’ll be easier Under nose: What if things work out ok for me this time Chin: What if things go my way Collarbone: What if it turns out even better than I expected Under arm: What if it does work out for me Top of head: What if this change turns out to be the best thing that ever happened to me
Repeat the tapping as necessary and use your own words where appropriate. Tap on the specific changes that are happening in your life and how you feel about them, until you feel calmer and able to handle the situation.
Even though I’m worried of having a panic attack and not being able to handle it I choose to know I can get through it and feel normal again quickly
Even though I can’t handle having a panic attack and just want to take a tablet and go to bed to sleep it off, I choose to know it will pass and I can get through it
Even though I hate the feeling in my legs when I’m feeling anxious and having a panic attack I choose to get through it quickly and feel calm and normal again easily and quickly
Eyebrow: I worry I’ll have a panic attack
Side of Eye: I hate having these panic attacks
Under Eye: I wish I didn’t have these panic attacks
Under Nose: I hate feeling anxious
Chin: I can’t stand my legs feeling like jelly
Collarbone: I want to take a tablet and sleep it off when it starts
Under Arm: I just want to get away from these feelings
Crown of head: I just want it to be over
Now tap on the positives:
Eyebrow: I choose to be able to handle these strange feelings
Side of Eye: I know I’m ok even though I feel like this
Under Eye: I can get through this easily
Under Nose: My legs will feel normal again quickly
Chin: I know these feelings will pass quickly
Collarbone: It’ll all be over soon and I’m ok anyway
Under Arm: I choose to be able to handle these panic attacks
Crown of head: I can get through these panic attacks easily and quickly
Lots of my American friends were celebrating Thanksgiving yesterday. So it got me thinking about how I could use the day to offer my thanks too. Whilst I didn’t partake in a Thanksgiving celebration with friends and family, I did spend some time reflecting on all that I am grateful for.
Thanksgiving - Offering Gratitude
This is something that I do on a regular basis anyway. Each day I write in my Gratitude Journal. This is a special notebook where I write down several things each day that I am grateful for.
At times you may feel that you don’t have a lot to be grateful for. For example, you could have money worries or having trouble in a relationship. The key is at these times is to find something to be grateful for. It could be the sunshine when you woke up, or a kind word someone says to you at work. It could be the roof over your head, the love of your family or your train being on time. There is always something to be grateful for. Sometimes we just need to look a bit harder. Other times it will be easy and your gratitude will pour out of you.
Remember what we focus on we get. So by focusing on our gratitude we attract more things to be grateful for.
As well as writing in my gratitude journal, I like to tap in my gratitude. I repeat what I am grateful for, whilst tapping on the points. I start at the eyebrow and finish at the top of my head. I might repeat certain items several times or repeat a different item on each tapping point. The key for me here is to really feel that gratitude as I’m tapping it in. I find the combination of EFT and gratitude very powerful indeed.
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Anonymous
My gratitude to Katherine Krych (@HealingRays) for sharing this quote on Twitter.
The more you practice being grateful, the easier it becomes and the more things you find to be grateful for. I will leave you with this quote:
“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” Meister Eckhart
