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Affirmations are powerful positive auto suggestions that we repeat on a regular basis. We can use EFT or tapping to make them even more powerful. There is no need for the setup statement, so we can just repeat our affirmation starting at the eyebrow point and keep going until we finish at the crown of the head. Repeat your affirmation with feeling and do several rounds of tapping.
Always ensure your affirmations are for your best outcome, simple to repeat, not too long and worded positively.
Here are some positive affirmations you may wish to try. Some of these have been influenced by Louise L.Hay who has been a great inspiration to me.
I am healthy
I can do it
I am filled with peace and joy
I am a success
Success comes easy to me
Money flows to me easily
I learn new things easily
My health is improving
I am fit and healthy
All my cells are working for my highest good
My immune system is strong
My energy is flowing smoothly
Inspiration flows easily to me
I love and accept myself
I feel calm and confident
Yes! Yes! Yes!
I weigh xx (insert ideal weight)
I am grateful to be alive
I sleep well every night
All is well in my world
I hope you have fun with these affirmations! Repeat several rounds of your affirmations a couple of times a day.
Do let me know some of your favourite affirmations! It’s fun to share.
Have you ever found yourself feeling stuck and desperately wanting to be understood by your partner? Do you put off having “that talk” about your relationship, because you anticipate it will be difficult, uncomfortable or agonising! Many of us don’t approach our partner because we think they will respond in a certain way. We anticipate their reaction, how they will feel and we think it’s just too difficult to deal with. So we don’t have that talk and bury our heads in the sand! Instead we go around seething, resenting, judging, getting angry, frustrated, sad and upset! Does that sound familiar?
EFT can’t change our partner but what it can help us with is our own judgements, thoughts, feelings and blockages that prevent us from approaching our partners and communicating with them in a calm way. It can also help us deal with the reaction we get if it’s not we want, expect or need.
Firstly try writing down exactly what it is you are feeling. Then use what you have written down to come up with your tapping statements. Below are some examples to help you get started:
Even though I keep putting off talking to my partner, I accept my feelings about this
Even though I can’t find the time to talk to my partner properly, I’m open to making the time
Even though talking about how I feel with {name} is so difficult, they just don’t understand me, I accept myself completely anyway
Even though {name} won’t understand what I’m trying to say, it’s just so difficult to talk with them, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway
Even though {name} will get upset when we have this talk, what if they surprised me and really listened to what I have to say
Even though I’m scared of hurting {name} with what I have to say, I’m open to remaining calm and getting my points across anyway
Even though {name} can’t handle it when I get upset, I really need to talk about this
Even though I don’t know how to explain how I feel and what I need from {name}, I’m open to letting it be easier than I think it will be
Next, tap your way through your list until you feel a shift (check your scores are all down to zero before you stop). Then try practicing “your talk” with your partner in your mind. Visualise how you both react. If there is anything that doesn’t go as you planned it, then keep tapping on the different aspects until you feel comfortable.
Whilst we cannot control how our partners will actually react, we will succeed in communicating a whole lot better if we are calm and in control of our emotions. If the talk doesn’t go as planned, then do some more tapping to help you deal with the situation.
If you have experienced the benefits of EFT then you know just how good you feel when you have cleared an issue up. You’ve worked on your issue and you are feeling so much better. This EFT stuff is great you think. Then you leave it alone until the next time you have an issue that needs addressing. Does that sound like you? Well, what I would encourage you to do is to make a commitment to tap every day anyway.
Whether you are working on an issue or not, tapping every day has its benefits. We are toning our energy system and encouraging the chi or energy to flow smoothly throughout our body. We know the benefits of exercising our bodies regularly. So how about discovering the benefits of toning your energy system every day?
I know, it takes time and you’re really busy with a million and one other things to do, which all seem they are a higher priority. What if the tapping every day helped you deal with all that other stuff? What if you felt like you had more energy and you could think more clearly? That would be worth it wouldn’t it?
If you do have some resistance, here is a script which can help. Followed by some tips about how you can easily fit in some tapping into your day. Enjoy!
Even though I’m too busy to tap every day, I accept my feelings about this
Even though I can’t find the time to do EFT every day, I’m open to letting it be easy
Even though it seems like too much effort to make time to tap every day, what if I could let it be easy
Eyebrow: I’m too busy to tap every day Side of eye: I find it so hard to find time to do EFT Under eye: I’m not good at finding time for me Under nose: It takes too much effort to tap every day Chin: I don’t have enough time Collarbone: Ge’ez, I’m busy enough already! Under arm: I just don’t know how I’d find the time Top of head: I can’t make time just for me and my health
Eyebrow: I’m open to finding ways to do this Side of eye: I guess I would feel better Under eye: Maybe I can fit in a few minutes of tapping Under nose: What if I did manage to find some time Chin: I do want to feel better Collarbone: Maybe I can fit in some tapping every day Under arm: I could do manage a few minutes a day Top of head: I am worth finding the time to do some tapping
Now take a nice easy deep breath. Repeat the tapping if you are still feeling any resistance. Adjust the phrases until you get down to a zero and feel ready to fit EFT into your day.
Tap every day
Here’s those tips:
Tap in the shower in the morning
Tap every time you go to the toilet
Tap whilst you wait for the kettle to boil
Tap whilst you are waiting at the traffic lights
Tap when you are standing in a queue
Tap when you are on hold on the phone
Tap when you read your email
Tap before you go to sleep at night
You see there are many ways to fit EFT into your day. You don’t have to be tuned into anything in particular if you don’t want to. You can just use finger tapping (especially good if you are in public!). Try tapping in some positive statements, e.g. my energy is flowing freely, I am feeling calm and peaceful, I am healthy, whole and complete.
If you haven’t yet experienced the benefits of EFT then learn now! Checkout my ‘What is EFT?’ page.
We all experience times when we have many things demanding our attention. All these different activities to be done. It can be difficult to prioritise. There are many ways of doing this and we are all guilty at times of doing the ‘nice to do’ pile before the ‘must do’ and ‘should do’ piles!
I recommend reading Stephen Covey’s excellent book ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’. In it he details how to prioritise starting with the ‘Important, Urgent’ list. Next up is ‘Important, Not Urgent’, then ‘Not Important, Urgent’ pile (e.g. interruptions) and finally the ‘Not Important, Not Urgent’ list (which you shouldn’t really waste time with!).
Lately, I have managed to prioritise my tasks and also to plan them in my day. What I have been struggling with, is getting my head out of one space or task and shifting it to the next. So I decided to do some tapping on it and it really helped. You can also use EFT if you find prioritising and planning difficult.
Here is the script I used to help shift me. I hope that you find it useful too.
Even though I find it hard to switch tasks, I accept my feelings about this
Even though I struggle to switch my head space, I’m open to letting it be easy
Even though it’s difficult to switch from one task and onto another, what if I could let it be easy
Eyebrow: It’s so difficult to switch between tasks Side of eye: I find it so hard to swap my head from task to task Under eye: It’s hard to switch from one task to another Under nose: I wish it were easy for me swap tasks Chin: I find my previous task stays in my mind Collarbone: I hate switching between tasks Under arm: It’s so difficult switching tasks Top of head: I find it hard to get going on my new task
Eyebrow: I’m open to the possibility of it being easier Side of eye: Maybe I can let it be easy Under eye: What if I found it easy to switch between tasks Under nose: Letting it be easy Chin: Maybe I can do this easily Collarbone: It doesn’t have to be hard Under arm: I can relax about this Top of head: Letting it be easy to switch tasks
Remember to tap until you feel the issue has been fully resolved. EFT is a wonderful help to me and I love sharing the ways I use it. It helps my clients and other people use it in ways they might not have thought of.
Here’s the rub. You hear about this strange-sounding technique called EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques. You discover lots of people have helped themselves or been helped by a practitioner and the more you read the more you think – I’ll give that a go myself! Then you read about those 1 minute wonders and think that will happen for me too.
As an experienced practitioner, I’d say those 1 minute wonders don’t happen very often. Many people try EFT for a couple of rounds and think, ah it’s not working for me and give up.
Well EFT does work. Often it is our persistence that is the key. So my advice is to keep tapping! Here’s some tips to help you, if you were expecting a 1 minute wonder that didn’t happen!
Always do your SUDS level – just think how do I feel about this issue on a scale of 0 to 10? Where 0 is no intensity and 10 is maximum intensity.
Start tapping on your issue and keep going!
After each round or two, re-check your SUDS level.
Keep tapping until you are down to 0.
If you get stuck try saying “Even though I’m stuck on this issue at a 3 (insert your number), I deeply and completely accept myself and choose to easily get it down to a 0”.
You can tap for your frustration if things aren’t moving as quickly as you like. You can also tap for the issue being more complicated than you expected. I’m sure you’re getting the idea now that you can pretty much tap on anything and everything!
Remember that working by ourselves it is often difficult to see our own problems. We can’t see the wood through the trees. So get some help. Preferably from an experienced practitioner like myself. Even a friend will help though – they should help you see things you can’t yourself.
In a future blog post (watch this space) I will list out some fantastic questions that can help you discover the root cause of your problem. With EFT we often peel away the layers as we tap. What we end up tapping on, maybe completely different to what we started on. All that matters though is that we persistently and gently keep working until we get to that root cause. Once we find that true healing takes place.
So always remember to be persistent and keep tapping!
Is clutter the bain of your life? It’s all that stuff that you mean to sort out one day. Except that one day never seems to come does it? You know the kind of stuff right? Your magazines, photos, paperwork, bills, the kids toys, old gadgets, presents, clothes, knick knacks etc. It gets sorted into piles and left until another time. Then time passes and you get used to walking around that pile or even moving it off the dining table so you can eat and then pop it back again when you’re done.
Clutter
It takes an effort to clear our clutter. It takes energy. It takes our emotions for quite often there are sentimental feelings about our clutter.
This isn’t the only type of clutter though. We have email clutter – just think when was the last time you had a good sort out of your inbox? Do you feel overwhelmed by the amount of emails that you get? It could be time to de-clutter your inbox and free yourself of those negative feelings when you check your email.
There is also thought clutter too. When we get overwhelmed by different ideas and thoughts. So you can also de-clutter your mind and write your ideas and thoughts down to free you to be more inspired.
If the idea of de-cluttering makes you break out into a sweat then use EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques to help you with this resistance.
Try the following setup statements:
Even though the thought of de-cluttering makes me break out into a sweat, I accept myself anyway
Even though it takes too much energy and I feel emotionally drained after de-cluttering, what if I found it easy and felt energised afterwards instead
Even though I keep putting off de-cluttering because of the hassle factor, I know how much better I’ll feel after I’ve done it
Tap through your resistance. Tap on any emotions you feel about de-cluttering such as anxiety, fear or sadness about letting your things go.
As well as feeling less overwhelmed yourself you can help out other people. You can donate things to charity, recycle or swap items easily through different websites. Just think how good you’ll feel when you’ve de-clutttered your home and inbox. Your energy and inspiration can flow easily!
Have you ever felt stuck and unable to make a decision?
Do you constantly switch from one option to the other & still can’t make up your mind?
Have you ever made a decision and then regretted the option you chose?
You’re not alone. Many of us struggle in this exact way.
Decisions, decisions
Lots of people suffer physical symptoms from their indecision. E.g. headaches, shoulder pain, churning stomach, night sweats, sleepless nights etc.
EFT can help! You can use Emotional Freedom Techniques to help you get over the fear, worry and anxiety associated with making a decision. You can use EFT to help you make that decision.
Try using the following script when you’re stuck and see if helps you make your decision easier. Before you start, on a scale of 0 – 10 how do you feel about making this decision? 0 would be calm and relaxed and 10 would be maximum stress/intensity about making the decision.
Even though I can’t make decisions, I accept my feelings about this
Even though I always struggle to make a decision, I toss and turn over it, I accept myself anyway
Even though I’m finding it impossible to make this decision, I’m open to letting it be easy
Eyebrow: It’s so difficult to make decisions Side of eye: I find it so hard to decide Under eye: I have to weigh up all of the options over and over again Under nose: I wish it were easy for me to know the right decision Chin: It’s so difficult to know which is the right decision for me Collarbone: I have sleepless nights over this decision Under arm: My stomach churns over making decisions Top of head: I get so stressed when I have to make a decision
Eyebrow: What if I make the wrong choice Side of eye: Why is it so hard for me to make decisions Under eye: I have to make sure it’s the right decision Under nose: I want to know I’ve made the right choice Chin: I’ll never be able to decide Collarbone: I wake at night worrying about this decision Under arm: I get night sweats stressing about this decision Top of head: I hate making decisions it’s so stressful
Eyebrow: What if it were easy for me to make decisions Side of eye: Maybe I can relax and think clearly Under eye: I can listen to my intuition Under nose: I can tune into my inner wisdom Chin: Maybe it can be easy to make a good decision Collarbone: What if I can sleep soundly even when I have decisions to make Under arm: Maybe I can let my intuition guide me Top of head: Letting be easy and safe for me to make decisions easily
Now re-check your score and repeat the tapping until you are down to 0 and you feel good about making your decision.
One of the major causes of our stress these days is our work. It is estimated that 16.7% of people who worked in 2009 thought their job was very or extremely stressful (Psychosocial Working Conditions survey). Of course, this stress doesn’t just affect our working life but our home life too. Many people suffer strained relationships as a result of their work stress.
So what to do? I recommend learning EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) or tapping as it is commonly called. This technique is easy to learn and can be done any time you feel stressed. Just taking 5 minutes to tap during a toilet break can really reduce your stress levels. If you don’t know how to tap just yet then take a look at my “What is EFT?” page. Below is a tapping script which can help you reduce your stress level right now.
Before you start, score your stress level on a scale of 0 – 10 (10 is maximum intensity). Once you have your score, tap along:
Even though I’m so stressed, I have way too much to do and I’ll never get it all done, I accept my feelings about this
Even though I’ve got too much on my plate and I just can’t cope, I accept myself anyway
Even though I’ve been given way too many responsibilities, no-one could cope with this workload, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: I’m so stressed right now Side of eye: I’ve got too much to do Under eye: I’ve got way too much for one person to handle Under nose: I can’t cope with this workload Chin: No-one could cope with this amount of work it’s ridiculous Collarbone: I’ve got too much on my plate Under arm: I’ve got way too many responsibilities Top of head: I’m so stressed and I just can’t cope any more
Eyebrow: I don’t want to let anyone down Side of eye: I feel I should be able to cope better Under eye: I’m letting myself down Under nose: It’s just too much work to handle Chin: The deadlines are too tight and not realistic Collarbone: I’ll never get it all done Under arm: I’m so overwhelmed Top of head: It’s too much to cope with
Eyebrow: I’m open to letting this stress go Side of eye: Maybe I can delegate some tasks Under eye: What if I could prioritise easily Under nose: Maybe I can release all this tension and think clearer Chin: What if I could stop for five minutes and calm my breathing down Collarbone: Maybe I can focus and work more efficiently Under arm: Maybe I can cope better Top of head: I’m open to letting this stress and overwhelm go
Now take a nice deep breath and re-assess your score. If you are down to 0 then you are done. If not keep on tapping and address any other aspects until you feel calm and in control once again.
Remember – if you are facing stress every day then you need to address it every day. Do a bit of tapping every day and you’ll be well on your way to a calmer life.
Ok, so it’s that holiday time of year again. You’re feeling all excited because you’re off to a fantastic destination and you can’t wait to be free from your usual responsibilities. But wait, there’s a bit of a niggle going on. In fact, it’s more than a niggle. It’s a feeling of absolute dread…having that realisation that I have to fly…oh my!
Well wait there just a minute… You don’t have to feel the fear anyway. You don’t have to feel that dread, grin and bear it, take Valium, grit your chattering teeth, get drunk or any other manner of ways you normally deal with it. There is a simple way to clear your fear of flying. It’s EFT…Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping as it is commonly called.
Now there could be many different things that cause your fear. These are the different aspects of your fear. Like different parts of a jigsaw puzzle as it were. Here are some of the common ones:
Being in a confined space
Noise of the engines
Feeling out of control
Vibration of the engines
Feeling trapped
Heights
Turbulence
Taking off
Landing
Fear of crashing
Not being able to see ahead
Not being able to see the ground
Fear of dying
Now that list is not exhaustive. So think about what it is that does it for you. If you start feeling a knot in your stomach, a tightness in your chest or throat or your palms starting sweating just thinking about it…tap right away, right now, go on, you’ll feel better I promise you.
Fear of flying
Here is a generic tapping script that you can tap along to. Rate your score first on a scale of 0 – 10 where 10 is maximum intensity (fear).
Even though I’m so scared of flying, I hate feeling out of control, I accept myself anyway
Even though I’m so scared of flying, my palms sweat, I get a tight chest and I feel frozen with terror, I’m ok
Even though I have this fear of flying, I’m open to letting this go now
Eyebrow: I’m so terrified of flying Side of Eye: My palms sweat just thinking about it Under Eye: I love to go on holiday, I just hate getting there Under Nose: I’m so scared of flying Chin: I feel so out of control Collarbone: My chest gets tight as soon as I get to the airport Under Arm: My palms sweat the whole flight Top of Head: Flying terrifies me
Eyebrow: I feel frozen with terror the whole flight Side of Eye: This fear really puts me off going on holiday Under Eye: I hate having this fear Under Nose: I wish I didn’t have to fly Chin: But flying is so quick and convenient Collarbone: I hate feeling out of control Under Arm: I’m really terrified of flying Top of Head: I feel so terrified my palms sweat and my chest gets tight
Eyebrow: I’m open to changing this feeling today Side of Eye: Maybe I can let this fear go now Under Eye: What if I could feel calm Under Nose: Letting it be safe for me to let this fear go Chin: Maybe I can feel calm and safe Collarbone: I’m open to feeling differently Under Arm: Letting it be safe, easy and comfortable for me to fly Top of Head: Maybe I can relax and feel calm
I hope the script helped. Remember to work on all the bits of your jigsaw puzzle to fully clear your fear for ever. There may also be specific memories for you to work on. If there are then use the movie technique for each mental movie that has contributed to your fear. See my previous post for details how.
With any problem we always try to get to the underlying core issue. There are a number of ways of getting there of course through questioning, deep listening and observing our client’s reactions e.g. strain in the voice, change of breathing, flushing of skin and the most obvious – a release of tears.
One of the core issues that often comes up is feeling worthless. You can address this by working on specific memories that made you feel worthless. You will probably need to address the events, situations and people who made you feel worthless too. For this I recommend the movie technique (see previous blog post). I also recommend working with an experienced Emotional Freedom Techniques practitioner on core issues.
Below is a generic tapping script for feeling worthless. Rate your score on a scale of 0 – 10 (10 is maximum intensity) before tapping.
Even though I feel really worthless, I’m open to accepting myself anyway
Even though I feel so worthless, nothing I do is ever right, I’m ok
Even though I feel worthless, I don’t count, I never have, I accept all of my feelings anyway
Eyebrow: I feel really worthless Side of Eye: I’m worthless Under Eye: Nothing I ever do is right and it makes me feel I’m worthless Under Nose: I can’t do anything right Chin: I feel so worthless Collarbone: I always get things wrong Under Arm: Nothing I do or say is worth anything Top of Head: I was always told I’m worthless so I must be
Eyebrow: I’m so worthless Side of Eye: I never contribute anything worthwhile Under Eye: I feel so worthless Under Nose: No-one values me Chin: I feel so worthless Collarbone: I don’t value myself Under Arm: I’m really worthless Top of Head: I’ve felt worthless all of my life
Eyebrow: I’m open to changing this feeling today Side of Eye: Maybe I can value myself Under Eye: What if I am worth something Under Nose: Letting it be safe for me to change this feeling Chin: Maybe I can contribute value Collarbone: I’m open to learning to value myself Under Arm: Letting it be safe, easy and comfortable to value myself Top of Head: Maybe I am worth something
Remember to keep tapping until this feeling of worthlessness has come down to 0. Use the movie technique to work on specific memories, situations and feelings that led to you feeling worthless. With core issues like this it is always best to work with an experienced EFT practitioner.
Ok so you’ve booked your summer holiday. Got your bags packed, your tickets and passport at the ready. You get to the airport in plenty of time and that’s where it all starts to go wrong! Your flight has been delayed and you begin to feel the stress kick in.
Departures
Several years ago this exact thing happened to me. I must admit that I completely freaked out and didn’t handle it at all well! Our flight was delayed which meant we missed our connecting flight. We then had to fly a different route with an extra stop over. I was really stressed by this stage and didn’t handle all the extra security at Miami airport at all well. By the time we reached our destination, we were 12 hours late and our luggage was missing. We had 2 hours sleep before starting our tour and I was in a right mood! My boyfriend managed to calm me down (God bless him!). We were without our luggage for 3 days and it took me until the end of the holiday to see the funny side. It would’ve been a whole lot easier if I had had EFT to calm myself down. Well thankfully now I do! My boyfriend is very grateful too!!!
You can stay calm and enjoy your holiday even though it doesn’t go exactly as you planned it would. You just need to do a bit of tapping.
Tap on each individual thing that could go wrong with your holiday. Starting with the one that would stress you or upset you the most.
Examples include:
Stressing whilst packing
Getting lost on the way to the airport
Arriving late at the airport
Flight being delayed or cancelled
Missing your connection
Lost luggage
Missing the bus to the resort
The hotel not being what you expected
Getting food poisoning
Use a different setup statement and reminder phrase for each of these different aspects and keep tapping until you have covered them all.
Here is a tapping script that covers the flight being delayed, your luggage going missing and the hotel being sub-standard. These are some of the most common things that can go wrong and stress you out before your holiday has really begun.
Setup: Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
Even though I really want the whole holiday to go smoothly and it will stress me out if anything goes wrong, I’m open to the possibility that I can remain calm no matter what happens
Even though I want this holiday to be perfect, I’ve been waiting all year for it and I just can’t handle anything going wrong, I accept myself and my feelings anyway
Even though I want the holiday to go smoothly and that there are no flight delays, lost luggage or sub-standard accommodation, I’m open to dealing with any mishaps calmly and rationally
Eyebrow: I want this holiday to be perfect Side of Eye: I’ve waited the whole year for this holiday Under Eye: It’s so important that I be able to relax on this holiday Under Nose: If anything goes wrong it will spoil it all Chin: I hope the flight is on time Collarbone: It will stress me out if it is delayed Under Arm: It has to go perfectly otherwise I can’t switch off Top of Head: If my luggage goes missing, I’ll feel so anxious I won’t enjoy my holiday
Eyebrow: I just can’t cope if the accommodation isn’t what I expected Side of Eye: If my bags get lost I’ll stress right out Under Eye: I want this holiday to go smoothly otherwise it’ll be ruined Under Nose: I hate it when something goes wrong Chin: If the hotel isn’t up to my standards, I’ll want to go home Collarbone: It’s so frustrating if the flight is delayed Under Arm: If the holiday doesn’t start perfectly I’ll feel stressed and I won’t enjoy myself Top of Head: I get so upset if the flight is delayed
Eyebrow: I’m open to remaining calm no matter what Side of Eye: What if I could just relax if the flight was delayed Under Eye: Maybe I can enjoy my holiday if my luggage goes missing Under Nose: Maybe the flight being delayed just won’t affect me Chin: What if I could remain calm even if my luggage went missing Collarbone: Maybe I can cope if the hotel isn’t up to my standards Under Arm: What if I can relax and enjoy this holiday even if it isn’t perfect Top of Head: I’m sure I can focus on having a good time anyway
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Remember to keep tapping until the issue has fully resolved.
How often do you end up focussed on the negative stuff in your life?
Do you wish you had an easy way to focus on the positives instead?
You can easily use positive situations, events, memories etc to create a positive repository for those days when it seems everything is going wrong or the whole world is against you.
We have so many fleeting positive experiences and we just don’t acknowledge them or relish them, so they are lost.
This technique draws heavily on resource states from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). Dr Patricia Carrington (EFT Master) utilised NLP resource states and added tapping to create a very powerful technique.
I love using this technique – it is very easy and quick to do. It is wonderful to have a positive memory bank to tap into whenever you feel you need a bit more positivity in your life.
Here’s what to do:
Think of a positive situation, event, memory etc. It could be eating lunch with your best friend, the time you won a 10k race, feeling a summer breeze whilst sat by a river. Now as you think of that positive memory, turn up the colours, make the pictures brighter, enhance the sounds and really feel those good feelings as if it were happening right now.
Now come up with a statement that sums up your experience, e.g. winning my 1st 10k race, gentle summer breeze caressing my face etc. Now use EFT to tap that experience in. Tap through the points starting at the eyebrow:
Eyebrow: Winning my 1st 10k race Side of eye: Winning my 1st 10k race Under eye: Winning my 1st 10k race
Repeat until you finish at the top of your head.
This is now a powerful resource state you can use in the future. Any time you want to re-experience this lovely memory, just tap on the points starting at the eyebrow and repeat your statement, e.g. winning my 1st 10k race, finishing at the top of your head.
It can be really helpful to enhance this process even more by writing down your resource statements in a journal or on flash cards and carrying them with you. Any time you feel you need a boost, get out your journal/cards and tap in those wonderful positive experiences!
I hope you enjoy using Emotional Freedom Techniques in this way – I certainly do!
Parties, dinners, lunches, meeting for coffee…do they fill you with dread?
We’re supposed to enjoy these things right? Well that is not always the case.
Many people are filled with dread when they receive an invite. They feel they “have” to say yes because that is the “right” thing to do. It’s difficult to say no because you then have to find an excuse as to why. Most people would rather make up an excuse than have to explain why they don’t actually want to go.
So if that sounds like you then pay attention. What exactly is it that you dread?
Is it not knowing what to say
The social etiquette
Do you hate eating in front of people?
Do you worry what people will think of you?
Do you fear being judged?
Have you had a specific event in the past that triggered your social anxiety
Whatever the answer is you can use that and do some tapping (or EFT), to help you clear these emotions, feelings and negative thoughts. Below is an example tapping script that you can use to get you started. Rate your intensity level on a scale of 0 – 10 first (10 is maximum intensity).
Even though I hate eating in public, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Even though I hate going out with friends, because I have to eat in public and I feel so self-conscious, I’m ok
Even though I feel so anxious, my stomach is in knots and I feel so sick I can’t eat anyway, I totally accept all of my feelings anyway
Eyebrow: I hate eating in public Side of Eye: I dread going out with friends Under Eye: I really wish I could enjoy it Under Nose: But it’s so difficult Under Chin: I feel sick to my stomach Collarbone: I get so anxious before I go out Under Arm: I hate having this social anxiety Top of Head: My stomach is in knots every time I eat out
Eyebrow: I dread eating out in restaurants Side of Eye: I really enjoy my friends company Under Eye: But I get so anxious going out Under Nose: I wish I could just go out and have fun Under Chin: My stomach gets so knotty and I feel so sick Collarbone: This anxiety is ruining my fun Under Arm: I wish I could relax when I go out Top of Head: I feel so anxious it makes me feel sick
Eyebrow: Maybe I can overcome this Side of Eye: What if I could relax and enjoy myself Under Eye: I’m open to the possibility I can get over this Under Nose: Maybe I can let this anxiety go Under Chin: What if I felt safe and relaxed when I went out Collarbone: Maybe my stomach can relax Under Arm: What if I actually enjoyed myself Top of Head: Maybe it’s time to let this anxiety go now
Keep tapping until you are down to zero. Then visualise yourself going out with friends and see what comes up for you now. If you feel more anxiety then do more tapping! Repeat this process until you can visualise several scenarios and feel completely calm.
To increase your success rate I highly recommend using the movie technique on specific events that triggered your social anxiety.
With some more investigation and persistent tapping you’ll be able to enjoy yourself socially like you never have done before!
The movie technique is a fantastic EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tool. It is used to reduce the emotional pain felt by working on certain issues. There was a tendency in the past for people to push through the pain and to be “brave”. With this technique there is no need for that. It is very gentle.
Movie Technique
The movie technique is also perfect if you find your tapping statements to be too global. By creating the movie – you automatically get down to the details. This technique is a very gentle way of working with EFT on difficult issues.
So how do you go about this movie technique? We start with the question:
If it was a movie, how long would it last?
Now, the answer should be minutes not hours or days – if it is the latter then this is still too global and you should break up the movie into smaller ones and work on them in turn.
Next we ask:
What the title of the movie would be?
This should be something specific again e.g. “when I crashed my car at the roundabout” or “the fight I had with my sister at Christmas”.
Next run through the movie in your mind and state the intensity you feel NOW as you imagine it on a scale of 0 – 10. If you feel that doing that will upset you then you can GUESS the intensity level instead. Remember we want this a pain-free as possible! Write this number down – this is your starting intensity level.
Ok, now start it’s time to start tapping! Tap using the statement:
Even though I have “this___________ movie”, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Example:
Even though I have “this fight with my sister at Christmas movie”, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
Repeat 3 times and tap through the points using “this___________ movie”
Repeat several times until your intensity has come down to low numbers or zero.
Now start playing the movie from the beginning until the end. Stop immediately if you feel any intensity. This is very important.
Use EFT on the bit of the movie that caused your intensity being as specific as possible. When you feel that part is down to zero then continue playing the movie and stop again if you feel any intensity. Keep repeating this process until you reach the end of the movie. It doesn’t matter how many times you have to stop – you want this to be as painless as possible and doing it this way ensures that.
Ok, so now play through the movie again and try to exaggerate the pictures, sounds, colours, turn up the feelings etc and try to get upset about it. If you feel some more intensity then repeat the steps above until you can play the entire movie and there is no emotional charge.
This technique has the added benefit that you don’t need to reveal to a practitioner or someone you are working with the content of your movie.
I hope that you find this technique as useful as I have. I’d love to hear how the movie technique has helped you. Get in touch.
