I’m Not Good Enough

Have you ever said “I’m not good enough”. Do you ever get held back at work because you think you’re not capable, or you fear making mistakes or failing? Maybe you haven’t asked someone out because you didn’t think you were good enough for them. Or maybe you don’t put yourself forward for things with your friends or family because you’re afraid you’ll disappoint them. These are things we have all felt at one time or another. It’s what you do (or don’t do!) about it that matters! EFT can help all of these feelings. The key is to make a note of these feelings and thoughts as they come up and tap on them.

You also need a bit of dedication and persistence too. Often people do not get results with EFT because they give up too quickly. One minute wonders do sometimes happen with EFT but most often you need to tap consistently for an hour or more. This can be done in several sessions – you just need to commit to doing the tapping!

Here’s a tapping script that will help.

Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I think I’m not good enough, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m scared of failing, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I worry I’ll disappoint people, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings

Eyebrow: I’m not good enough
Side of Eye: I’m not as capable as others
Under Eye: I’m scared I’ll fail
Under Nose: I think I’ll disappoint people
Under Chin: I’m just not good enough
Collarbone: I hate feeling like this
Under Arm: I worry I’ll make a fool of myself
Top of Head: I’m not good enough for them

Eyebrow: I’ll fail I know I will
Side of Eye: I’ll make too many mistakes
Under Eye: I just can’t do it
Under Nose: I’m not good enough
Under Chin: I wish I could believe in myself
Collarbone: I’m worried I’ll fail
Under Arm: I wish I didn’t feel like this
Top of Head: I’m a disappointment to people

Eyebrow: What if I could do it
Side of Eye: Maybe I won’t fail
Under Eye: What if I just tried
Under Nose: Maybe I won’t disappoint people
Under Chin: What if I did succeed
Collarbone: Maybe I can believe in myself
Under Arm: What if I am good enough
Top of Head: I can do it

Remember to keep tapping until you feel better. Keep tapping on all the different things that are causing this feeling. Think back into the past and try to recall the first time you felt this way. What was going on for you back then? Tap on those events, feelings or thoughts, to get to the root of this problem.

Alex Reid uses EFT

Alex Reid, (Katy Price’s husband) is a tapper! The cage fighter has an EFT trainer who helps him deal with stress and “sort his head out”.  He has suggested that X-Factor judge Cheryl Cole use his Emotional Freedom Technique Trainer to help her de-stress following her split from footballer Ashley Cole.

Reid stated: “I have to say a special thanks to Dennis, my EFT trainer. That stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. He’s like a therapist and has really helped me deal with the trials and tribulations of my new celebrity life! ”

Let’s hope that Cheryl takes his advice and gains the benefits of EFT. EFT is an amazing technique that can help you deal with:

  • Negative emotions
  • Relationship problems
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Self-esteem
  • Confidence

All of these issues can come up when you split with a partner or are going through a divorce. I know – I’ve been there! If only I’d had EFT at the time – life would have been so much better.

No Smoking Day 10th March 2010

Ok, so it’s No Smoking Day again on March 10th. You’ve tried to quit before but failed. You find it really difficult to control your cravings & you get irritable when you’re suffering from withdrawal symptoms.

Maybe you’ve stockpiled patches or gum to help you get through the day. Or maybe you’ve decided to take the day off because you just know you won’t be able to make it through a whole day without smoking and you don’t want the hassle off people…

If any of that sounds familiar to you then there is a different solution out there! EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you quit smoking the easy way:

  • Control your cravings
  • No willpower required
  • No patches or gum
  • Ease your withdrawal symptoms
  • Deal with reasons why you smoke
  • Ease the anxiety of losing your comforter
  • Address your concerns about failing or indeed succeeding!
  • Deal with your identity as a smoker
  • Empower yourself as a healthy non-smoker

For more information on how I can help you give up smoking, please go to my stop smoking page.

You can give me a call on 07866 013 637 for a free confidential, no obligation chat. Or use the contact form to drop me a line. Maybe you’re ready to find out how easy it is to stop smoking with EFT.

I feel like a freak

Ok, I’ve said it. I feel like a freak.

Have you ever said those words to yourself?

Have you ever thought, “I’m the only one who feels like this!!!”?

If you’re a woman with fertility issues, then I bet you’ve felt something like this before. If you’ve been trying for a baby for a while and had no success I’m sure you’ve said:

  • Why me?
  • It’s not fair
  • What’s wrong with me?
  • Why can’t I get pregnant?
  • What have I done wrong?
  • I’ll never get pregnant

Well, let me reassure you…you are not a freak! You most certainly are not alone.

I have lots of clients who experience these exact feelings. One of the most common feelings is jealousy. I am always surprised by how many women find this a taboo subject. That’s why I felt compelled to write this. I don’t want any woman to feel like a freak or that she is alone.

Jealousy is a perfectly normal emotion to experience if you are having trouble getting pregnant. You may think that everywhere you turn there is a pregnant women. Or you may see babies and toddlers where ever you go.

Let me assure you that there isn’t a sudden increase in pregnant women and babies. You are just tuned in to them and that is why you notice them. There is a special part of your brain (called the RAS – Reticular Activating System) that acts like an antenna. You are desperate to get pregnant and have a baby so your RAS responds and flags them to you everywhere you go.

Your RAS keeps showing you what you are tuned in to. It is no wonder that you feel jealousy, envy, sadness, despair every time you notice that you don’t have what you really want.

Another big emotion that then shows up is guilt! You feel guilty about feeling jealous or envious. You think “I should be happy for my best friend / sister /neighbour” etc. But you don’t. You feel jealous and envious and really wish it was you who was pregnant or just had a baby. So you feel guilty and that adds to all the negative energy and stress you are experiencing.

So what can you do about it? You do not have to suffer these emotions and feelings alone. You do not have to hide your feelings from everyone. You can get help. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can eliminate all of the negative feelings and stress. EFT is easy to learn and very effective.

Below are some sample tapping statements to try. Always tune in to your feelings first and score them on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 10 is the maximum intensity). Keep tapping on each emotion until it comes down to 0.

Replace the dots with whoever it is you are jealous of e.g. friend / sister / neighbour

  • Even though I feel so jealous of my …………….. because she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I’m open to accepting myself and my feelings
  • Even though I feel envious and I don’t want to think about my …………….. because it’s so unfair that she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I feel jealous of my …………….., she’s a lucky cow and it’s so unfair that she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I’m open to accepting myself

Eyebrow: I’m so jealous of ……………..
Side of Eye: I wish I could be happy for her
Under Eye: Why do I feel this envy of ……………..
Under Nose: I feel so much jealousy
Under Chin: I hate feeling all this jealousy
Collarbone: I wish I didn’t feel this way
Under Arm: All this jealousy
Top of Head: It’s so unfair that …………….. has a baby and I don’t

Take a deep breath and tune in to your feelings again. If your jealousy feelings are at zero then you can move on to the next feeling. If not, keep tapping on jealousy until you are down to zero.

  • Even though I feel so sad that I can’t get pregnant, I don’t know what I’ve done wrong, I’m open to accepting myself and my feelings
  • Even though I feel this sadness in my heart because I can’t get pregnant, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I can’t stop thinking it’s all my fault that I can’t get pregnant and I’m obsessed by wanting a baby, I’m open to accepting myself

Eyebrow: All this sadness in my heart
Side of Eye: I feel so sad that I can’t get pregnant
Under Eye: I’m desperately sad because I can’t have a baby
Under Nose: I feel so sad that I’m not pregnant
Under Chin: I hate feeling all this sadness and desperation
Collarbone: I wish I didn’t feel this way
Under Arm: All this sadness in my heart
Top of Head: It’s so unfair that I can’t get pregnant

Remember to use your words, where appropriate. Keep on tuning in to each emotion or feeling in turn and tap until it is down to zero before moving on to the next one. Keep on tapping until you have worked on all of your emotions and stress.

If you would like some help with Emotional Freedom Techniques, I would love to help you. I offer sessions worldwide over the telephone or on Skype. If you would like a face to face session I do these in Cardiff or Exeter and Okehampton, Devon. Please give me a call on 07866 013 637 or use the contact form. I offer a free telephone consultation for you, to see if you would like to work with me. I look forward to helping you overcome your negative emotions and stress.

Making Time For Meditation

I used to meditate every day. Then I kind of “fell off the wagon” and never really got back on properly. I would do it again sporadically. Sometimes I’d get into a good groove and do it for months, other times I’d not do it for months.

I recently changed that though. I started again and I noticed how easy it was! I just slid right into my groove – like never before. No struggling to “get into the zone”.

I had two amazing meditations recently, that I want to share.

Sense Garden

I stood before a wooden gate, so I turned the handle and went through it. I found myself in a beautiful garden. It seemed to simulate all of my senses. As I walked through the garden, I could feel the sunshine on my skin. There was a beautiful scent in the air as I walked in further. There was a herb garden with rosemary, basil, coriander and mint. Then there were climbing plants with wonderful scents like honeysuckle and clematis.

My eyes were treated to an amazing array of flowers of all colours, like sunflowers, gerberas, red hot pokers and irises. There were also lots of different coloured shrubs, bushes and ferns. As I walked along a path, I realised that the path was made of gravel and I could hear it crunching under my feet. I came upon a water feature with a mini waterfall and I stood listening to the calming sound of running water. The energy around the waterfall felt incredible. As I moved on, I heard birds and bees and noticed a wind chime, gently chiming in the light breeze. I found myself wanting to sit down and noticed a wooden seat. The texture of the seat was smooth and I felt comforted as I sat there. I also noticed other textures up ahead, where there was a stone statue. I ran my hands over the curves and straight lines and felt all the different textures. This contrasted with a metal sculpture which was cold and silky smooth to touch. 

I continued to walk ahead and came across a hammock. I picked a clementine from a nearby tree and laid myself down on the hammock. The clementine was sweet and juicy and smelt really zesty. My body felt relaxed and comfortable as I swayed gently in the breeze.  At the end of my meditation, I felt really relaxed and like I had been treated to a sense treat. 

Native American Sweat lodge

This meditation immediately started with me walking towards a sweat lodge. I walked through a path through some trees, where wind chimes were hanging. We were cleansed with sage outside the sweat lodge, then we entered one by one and sat cross-legged in a circle. The medicine man began in leading our prayers and offered up chants. We each passed around the peace pipe before the stones were brought in and the water poured on. I could feel the heat rise in my body as the steam filled up the lodge. During the ceremony, 4 animal spirits came to me. They were the eagle, the beaver, the wolf and the turtle.

After the ceremony I walked up a mountain, with several other people. At the top of the mountain was a medicine wheel. The medicine man again offered prayers and we all joined him in chanting. After this ceremony, I again saw the great eagle, though this time he was soaring on the thermals above the mountain. I felt very light and clear after this meditation.

These meditations both just “came” to me. I did not (consciously anyway) intend to have these experiences. There are many ways of meditating and some days nothing spectacular happens – it’s just me quieting my mind chatter, watching my breath, come and go. I feel especially blessed when I experience meditations like these two and equally satisfied to just “be”.

I’d love to hear about other people’s experiences.

Tapping World Summit 2010

Last year over 81,000 listened to the Tapping World Summit!

It has already started and you can still sign up and listen for free… 

It’s free, it’s online, and it’s streaming right to your computer…

It’s the 2010 Tapping World Summit! 

If you haven’t yet heard about this event or its line up of speakers and amazing topics, then click on the link below to learn why you absolutely must attend this event:

Registering for free gives you access to this ten day online event that features over 20 interviews from some of the top Meridian Tapping Experts in the world.

They’re going to be showing you EXACTLY how to use Tapping for issues such as physical pain, limiting beliefs, weight loss, food cravings, addiction and much more.

You’ll also be learning how to use EFT and Tapping to break past fears and blocks that keep you from succeeding financially.

Last year over 81,000 people attended this event online and this year it looks like that record is going to be shattered! 

But you won’t get access to any of the calls if you’re not registered!

And this event only comes around once a year.  I’d hate for you to miss out on it because last year it changed the lives of literally tens of thousands of people.

Don’t let any excuses get in your way…just be there!  🙂

I’ll see you there,


The first two audios were amazing, so don’t miss out, sign up now.

Janey Lee Grace – Is an EFT Convert

Janey Lee Grace – author and Radio 2 presenter (Steve Wright’s afternoon show), is now an EFT convert too! Janey is an avid holistic and alternative therapy advocate. Her website provides a wealth of information on topics from natural health to EMFs.

Janey had experienced EFT in the past – in combination with other treatments and always thought it was the other therapies that worked not the Emotional Freedom Techniques.

That all changed when Janey attended an EFT Level 1 course. During the day she explored a traumatic experience from the past that resulted in a phobia. Janey discovered one of the most beneficial aspects of EFT – that you don’t actually have to reveal to the practitioner what that trauma or phobia is! EFT is a very gentle technique and limits any further trauma.

To read the article see Janey’s blog:

I look forward to hearing more of Janey’s journey with EFT!

EFT in the News – Telegraph Article

I always get excited when EFT is mentioned in the media. It helps raise awareness with people who have never heard of it. It can also help those who won’t try anything unless it is covered by a newspaper or national television. Whilst Emotional Freedom Techniques has been around since the early 1990’s there are still many people who haven’t a clue about what it is.

The article was written by Beverley Turner who attended an EFT course in London. She explains what it was like to attend an EFT course (lack of sandal and kaftan wearing attendees) and relates experiences of some experienced practitioners on topics such as drug problems and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

She mentions celebrities such as Michael Ball and the late Stephen Gately who used EFT for performance anxiety, Lily Allen who credits her weight loss to EFT and professional athletes such as American PGA golfers who use it to improve their game.

To read the article:

Here’s to hoping EFT will make it into the media on a regular basis and more people will discover this amazing, life changing tool.

Physical Healing equals believing…

There are plenty of sceptical people out there who don’t believe we have an energy system, let alone that something like EFT can actually heal us. One thing that does seem to convince even sceptical people is if they try it on a physical issue. Many people have been pleasantly surprised when their headache disappeared, or their back pain was dramatically reduced.

My response is – just try it…what have you got to lose? Only some time. There are plenty of free EFT manuals out there (if you want to download mine just sign up to my informative newsletter and it’s yours

Once you have the manual, you can try EFT for free in the comfort of your own home. My advice is to try it on something physical e.g. headache, back pain, cold etc. I wouldn’t recommend trying it on your long-standing illness on your own (get some help from a qualified practitioner!).

I have two recent experiences where EFT worked beautifully on physical issues. The first was an “unidentified” ulcer/cold sore on my lip. This appeared on Monday afternoon. I didn’t know what it was, but it looked like an ulcer on my lip – I suspected a cold sore but it wasn’t tingling and besides, I haven’t had one for about 20 years.  So I tapped on:

Even though this “thing” on my lip has appeared on my lip from nowhere, I accept myself anyway.

Even though I have this ulcer on my lower right lip, my body has a wonderful healing ability and can easily deal with this.

Even though this thing on my lip is hurting, I’m grateful for the amazing healing ability of my body.

Then I tapped on the rest of the points using phrases like:

  • My body can easily heal this
  • This thing on my lip is healing now
  • I have this amazing healing ability
  • My body is healthy and strong and can heal my lower right lip
  • I’m grateful for this thing on my lip and acknowledge my body for sending me this message
  • My lower right lip is healing beautifully

I tapped on this for several rounds a few times for 2 days. My lip is now completely healed.

The second was a case of first aid EFT. I accidently burnt my ring finger on my cooker. I felt stupid for doing it as I was cleaning a spillage on the hob and knew it was hot. Plus my finger really hurt. I ran it under some cold water for a few minutes then immediately tapped on:

Even though I feel real stupid for burning my finger on the hob, I accept myself and my stupidity

Even though this burn on my finger is really hurting and it was my fault, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself

Even though I had this accident and burned my finger, it shouldn’t have happened and it hurts like hell, I accept and forgive myself anyway.

Then I tapped on the remaining points using phrases like:

  • I was stupid and I burnt my finger
  • My ring finger really hurts
  • This burn on my right ring finger is hurting like hell
  • I didn’t do this on purpose but I do feel kinda stupid
  • This burn on my right ring finger knuckle
  • This red hot burn on my right ring knuckle
  • This red burning sensation on the knuckle of my right ring finger
  • My body has a wonderful healing ability
  • I can heal this quickly and easily
  • My pain is reducing and the redness is calming down
  • My wonderful body and it’s healing ability can deal with this
  • What if my body could easily heal this burn on my right ring finger
  • What if a big blister didn’t appear
  • Maybe my body can heal this burn on my finger easily

After a short time the pain had disappeared completely. The swelling went down and only a tiny flat blister appeared. I was expecting some pain when I bent my knuckle, as the burn was right on my knuckle. I could bend my finger no problem without any pain. Later, I was washing my hands in hot water and thought – still no pain! Wow! The next day I did a couple more rounds of my finger healing quickly and easily. I’ve had no pain since and there is only a tiny blister remaining. I love the healing power of EFT!

Some tips with physical issues:

  • Start with something simple not a major injury/illness
  • Be specific, e.g. burn on my right ring finger
  • Use any emotions associated with the pain, e.g. my stupid feeling
  • Use descriptive words encompassing things like any colour associated with the pain, whether there is any temperature, heaviness, tingling etc
  • Be persistent – don’t expect a one minute wonder – they do sometimes happen but most often you need persistence
  • Be ready to “chase the pain” as Gary Craig says – it may change sensation or move around your body – keep tapping as you follow it. It may move up & out or down further into your body
  • Get some help if you get stuck.

Keep on tapping!

What No Chocolate Desire!

Ok, it’s been a few weeks since I created my food cravings video and blog post. I just wanted to give you some of my feedback since that blog & video. Whilst I do love chocolate, I wouldn’t say I felt I had a problem with chocolate. Sometimes I’d really fancy it and other times I could take it or leave it. I would get a craving for it at certain times of the month, like a lot of women. My boyfriend would even joke with me at those times if I was getting a bit grouchy and say “quick it’s time to break out the emergency chocolate”!!!

I can report that I didn’t have any of that this past month. No chocolate cravings. No feeling grouchy before my period.

I have also just completed my usual January detox again and usually have a bit of craving for certain food afterwards, chocolate being one of  them. I finished my detox and didn’t feel like chocolate. I just wanted to carry on eating really healthily like I had been for the past month.

Hmmm, I was thinking what’s different? Then I remembered. I’d created that blog & video!  Could that be it? It seemed too simple. I didn’t create that blog & video for me – I wasn’t tapping on my stuff…or was I?

Whilst I’m not sure if this is a permanent thing, it sure is interesting. So maybe a word of warning would be – don’t tap on your food cravings unless you’re sure you don’t want to eat that food again!

I love EFT and the wonderful ways it works. Happy tapping!

Want a session of EFT to address your cravings? Give me a call on 07866 013 637 or drop me an email – Phone sessions available worldwide or face to face in Cardiff or Devon.

Food Cravings

If you want to lose weight, you inevitably end up trying a diet.  People on diets often live with lack and also guilt. Lack because there are certain foods that you are not “allowed” to eat, or you are only allowed a certain amount of calories, or “sins”.  Guilt often comes up from indulging in eating something on your banned list. Neither of these emotions are helpful for losing weight.

Many people find EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) very helpful with food cravings.

Firstly think about the food you are craving, e.g. chocolate.  Next score your craving on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 10 is really high craving). Then try the following script using your food craving, if it is not chocolate. If you have more than one food, then concentrate on one particular food at a time. Be specific. For example, if it is chocolate digestive biscuits then use that rather than chocolate or biscuits.

Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I really crave chocolate, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I really want to eat lots of chocolate and I just love the taste of it, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I can’t stop thinking about chocolate, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings about chocolate

Eyebrow: I’m really craving chocolate
Side of Eye: I can’t stop thinking about chocolate
Under Eye: Why can’t I stop thinking about chocolate
Under Nose: I love eating chocolate
Under Chin: Nothing satisfies me like chocolate
Collarbone: I want to eat chocolate now
Under Arm: Chocolate is always on my mind
Top of Head: When I eat it, I feel guilty

Eyebrow: This chocolate craving
Side of Eye: Chocolate is my friend
Under Eye: Chocolate satisfies my needs
Under Nose: I’m a chocolate addict
Under Chin: I love chocolate
Collarbone: I’m dreaming of eating chocolate
Under Arm: I really want chocolate
Top of Head: I have this strong craving for chocolate

Eyebrow: What if I could stop craving chocolate
Side of Eye: Maybe I can enjoy eating more healthy food instead
Under Eye: What if chocolate just didn’t do it for me anymore
Under Nose: Maybe I can feel satisfied in other ways
Under Chin: What if I just wasn’t that bothered by chocolate anymore
Collarbone: I can give it a miss
Under Arm: What if I didn’t feel like eating chocolate now
Top of Head: What if I can easily choose to eat healthy foods

Check your score again.  If you are not down to zero, keep repeating the tapping until you are down to zero.  Try testing your craving by finding some chocolate (or your food). Look at it.  Does it still look appealing?  Smell it. Does it still smell appealing? Try tasting it? Does it still taste good?  Often, you will not like the look, smell or taste of your food after tapping on it.  If you still want it, or want it more after this testing, then repeat the tapping again. 

Remember to keep tapping until your craving subsides completely.  Repeat the exercise for other food cravings.

Here is a video of me tapping for food cravings. Try tapping along with me, anytime you have a food craving.

Keep tapping until you no longer crave these foods. Also try tapping on any feelings of guilt etc that come up if you do eat foods that you are avoiding.

Happy tapping.

Happy New Year Resolutions

Happy New Year!

I hope that you’ve had a wonderful Christmas and are ready to face the new year.

This is traditionally the time of year when people make new year’s resolutions. Well maybe you’ve made them before and they fell by the way side by the end of January (or even the middle of Jan!). It doesn’t have to be that way. You see, many people have a small setback and think, oh that’s it – I’ve blown it. Might as well give up. There then follows that inner dialogue – you know the one – I’m never good at new year’s resolutions. I always give up on things. I’m never good at sticking to new things. I’m not good enough and on it goes. Sound familiar?

When you learnt to walk, you didn’t give up the first time you fell over. You kept going and fell over many times. You just kept getting up more times than you fell over. That’s one of the keys. The other is to use a simple tool to help you, with all of that negative self talk. It’s called EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques.

Here’s a great video you can tap along with by Fiona McCallion:

The other thing to do is to actually write down your resolution in the form of a goal. Be specific. Use numbers and dates etc. So if you are wanting to lose weight – write down your ideal weight and when you want to achieve this by. Set yourself a challenge and be realistic at the same time. It’s no good setting yourself a target of losing 2 stone in a month – it just won’t happen, so you’re setting yourself up for a fall from the beginning.

Next, visualise yourself having achieved your goal. This step is really important. Step into yourself at your ideal weight – how good do you feel? Look in the mirror at your new self & admire how you look. How great your body feels. How much more energy you have. Your new zest for life.

Get the idea? Make the picture big & bright, with lots of colours. Turn up the feelings and the sounds. Really feel it. Now step out of the picture and hold it in your hands. Feel yourself being drawn towards your goal and go for it!

So now, what is your new year’s resolution?

If you want some help with yours, I’d love to help you get rid of that negative self talk, help you eliminate your cravings and help you bust your bad behaviours.

Give me a call on 07866 013 637. I work on the telephone or face to face in Cardiff, or Okehampton and Exeter in Devon, UK.

Christmas Wishes

Wishing everyone a wonderful, happy, peaceful Christmas.

I’ll be doing some tapping on Christmas day to send peace, love and health to those less fortunate than myself.

Amidst all the hustle and bustle of the day, why not spend a few minutes being truly grateful for everything you have – your family and friends, your home, the food on your table, your job, your health, the clothes you wear, your presents. We spend so much time wanting the latest gadgets, clothes, car etc that we forget what’s really important. So take some time this year and be truly grateful.

Feeling Grateful

There’s always something to be grateful for
Every day of your life
There’s always something to be grateful for
Regardless of the strife

For some it may be easy to find
For others it may not be so
Yet there’s always something to be grateful for
So why not give it a go

For when you’re feeling grateful
Joy wells up inside
When you’re feeling grateful
Joy can no longer hide

Joy’s in everyone
Shining like the sun
Sometimes hidden from view
Yet always there for you

By Ruth Gilmore – my wonderful friend. I’m truly grateful to have you in my life.

What are you grateful for?

Christmas Preparations

Christmas should be a wonderful time of year.  Spending time with loved ones, giving and receiving gifts and sharing special meals with friends.  In reality though, there is often a lot of stress and anxiety involved.  There is too much to do in too little time, worries about not having enough money, fears and anxieties about not getting the “right” presents for people, whether the food will be cooked to perfection, will Aunt Joan wind up your father-in-law….and the list goes on.

So instead of just ploughing through the list of chores and letting the stress pile up so that it makes it almost impossible for you to enjoy the festive season, I suggest you make a little time for some different preparations…preparing you!

Tapping Script for Christmas Peace:

Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I’ve got way too much to do and not enough time to do it in and I’m feeling really stressed about Christmas, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m worried that I won’t get it all finished in time, I accept myself and how I feel about this Christmas
  • Even though I don’t know how I’m going to pay for Christmas this year and it’s so hard finding presents on a budget, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings of inadequacy

Eyebrow: I’ve still got way too many things to do
Side of Eye: I should’ve started shopping earlier
Under Eye: Why didn’t I get more organised
Under Nose: I’ve left it to the last minute again
Under Chin: I’m so stressed about Christmas
Collarbone: I don’t get enough help with all the preparations
Under Arm: When will I learn to start preparing earlier
Top of Head: I’ve got too many presents to buy still

Eyebrow: I’m going to be working so hard on Christmas Eve
Side of Eye: I don’t think I’ve bought the right presents for people
Under Eye: There’s too much pressure on me
Under Nose: I can’t afford Christmas!
Under Chin: I don’t have enough money to buy presents
Collarbone: Why can’t my husband/wife/partner help me?
Under Arm: Christmas is too stressful
Top of Head: I hate all this pressure to do everything perfectly

Eyebrow: What if I could stop feeling so stressed
Side of Eye: Maybe if I was calmer, I’d get more done
Under Eye: What if I wrote a list and get more organised
Under Nose: Maybe I can get some help
Under Chin: Maybe I’m putting too much pressure on myself
Collarbone: What if I appreciated the really important things
Under Arm: What if I don’t have to do everything perfectly
Top of Head: What if I made some thoughtful presents instead of buying stuff people don’t want anyway

Keep tapping until you feel calm and peaceful.  If any particular stress or anxieties come up then make sure that you tap on them too.

Tapping Suggestions:

  • Not having enough money to buy presents, food, drink, party clothes etc
  • Worries about spending time with certain family members, arguments
  • Losing the real meaning of Christmas and all the commercialism
  • Missing a loved one or being separated from loved ones at Christmas
  • Not having enough time to relax, pressures of having to visit lots of people etc
  • Having to travel long distances

I wish you a wonderful, calm and peaceful Christmas!