Category: EFT

Going With The Flow

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Sometimes we plan things and they don’t turn out how we expect them to. We can feel disappointed, sad, resentful or even guilty. If you are someone who finds it hard to deal with situations when things don’t go to plan then some tapping can help. We can’t always control things and even with the best will in the world the unexpected sometimes happens.

To allow yourself to be more flexible and more able to “go with the flow”, enables you to appreciate the present moment and not have to feel disappointed etc when things don’t go exactly to plan.

Try tapping the following few setup statements and see what happens:

  • Even though I like to organise and plan everything and feel disappointed if it doesn’t work out, I’m open to the possibility of going with the flow
  • Even though I feel sad/guilty/resentful {use your exact words} if my plans go awry, I choose to be flexible and just go with it instead
  • Even though I hate it when things don’t go to plan, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway
  • Even though I feel unsafe if my plans change unexpectedly, I choose to trust I’ll be ok

Remember to use your words where appropriate.  Keep tapping on all the aspects that pop up when you work on this issue. Be persistent until you feel a shift.

I hope this has been useful.

Keep tapping
Louise
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

I’m Overwhelmed…Where do I start?

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A client recently asked this question. They felt absolutely overwhelmed and when they tried tapping they kept jumping from one issue to the next. My client was tapping in bed because they had recently not been sleeping very well.  I advised several things:

  • Keep a pad of paper & pen next to your bed so that if you wake up with lots of things going around your mind you can write them down and get them out of your head.
  • Write a to-do list and prioritise your tasks.  It is easy when we are overwhelmed to feel like we have to do everything. Don’t waste any time on low priority items.  We forget we can ask for help – delegate tasks where possible.
  • Just tap. Don’t try to tap on each issue or aspect. Just begin tapping and focus on slowing down your breathing and your mind. Focus on your overwhelm and keep tapping until you feel calm.

It is easy to become overwhelmed by the number of issues you have to tap on! So just start tapping and focus on your breathing and slowing down your mind. Once you feel calm then you can begin tapping on specific issues.

When we are overwhelmed and our to-do list seems miles long it is easy to forget about looking after ourselves.  It is even more important to look after ourself at these times but it seems like such a low priority.  Remember to schedule in some down time and do something relaxing such as taking a walk, spending time in nature, doing a meditation or tapping.

Keep tapping
Louise
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Getting Out There

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We all know we should exercise to keep us healthy. Some people are easily motivated and the rest of us need a little help sometimes! EFT can help us get out there and exercise. Now firstly, make sure you choose some of exercise you do actually enjoy. No amount of tapping is going to help you do something you just don’t like!

Exercising
Exercising

Focus on what it is that de-motivates you or makes you think up excuses not to go. E.g. if you are exercising outside do you make excuses if the weather isn’t perfect? I have had some of my best runs in the rain, so I can’t use that excuse any more!

Write down all your de-motivators and excuses and then tap your way through them. Ask yourself what is really going on beneath the excuses etc and tap on that too. It could be a feeling of low self-worth for example.

Here’s some ideas to help you get started:

  • Even though I know I should exercise, I just don’t have the time to fit it in right now and I am willing to accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’d rather collapse on the sofa after a stressful day at work, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I haven’t got enough energy to do exercise, I’m open to accepting myself
  • Even though I always have to push myself to exercise and I wish it were easier to motivate myself, I’m ok

Some of these may sound familiar to you. Many people struggle to find the time and summon the energy to exercise. We have to make the time and that’s where it can get difficult. We can feel we are being selfish by wanting some time to ourselves. But what is more important that our wellbeing?

There are so many benefits to exercising from reduced blood pressure to staying a healthy weight, reducing stress and sleeping better. So use EFT to help motivate yourself and let go of your excuses. Get out there & enjoy exercising…I’m sure you’ll feel better afterwards.

Let me know if you would like a session to help you with this issue.

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637

Persistence Pays

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“Progress results from persistence with purpose” — Frank Tyger

I had a client the other day who said that she would be willing to try EFT but that she had tried it in the past and it hadn’t worked. After a bit of questioning it turns out that she had only tried EFT for a few minutes and didn’t get any results so she gave up! That really frustrates me! (Maybe I need to tap on that!) There are so many videos and testimonials of 1 minute wonders that people think their issue should be fixed in a minute or a few. Whilst 1 minute wonders do occur most people need to tap for a lot longer than that. FYI – most practitioners sessions last an hour. Most people need several sessions to work through their issue(s).

We aren’t all the same and just because 1 person resolved their fear of flying in a minute doesn’t mean ours will be resolved as quickly or easily. It is probably worth tapping on the fact that you feel your issue should be resolved quickly. Feeling like a failure if your issue didn’t get resolved quickly is not going to help you or your issue!

Then set yourself a decent amount of time (like an hour) to work on your issue in a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed. Write down your SUDS level (intensity) and the main aspects of your issue and keep tapping through all the aspects. If you haven’t finished on the issue at the end of your issue, then write yourself some notes on what you tapped on and what you feel is left. Then commit to further sessions to fully resolve it. You may feel like you need some help from a friend or practitioner to help you get to the core of your issue.

“Energy and persistence conquer all things.” — Benjamin Franklin

Remember that persistence is often the key – keep tapping on all the different aspects until you have completely resolved your issue.

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637

 

Silence is Golden – Tapping Without Words

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One of the most common things clients struggle with EFT is how to find the “right” words to use. Well there are no “right” words as I have written about in the past. In fact, we can tap without using any words at all.

This happened in a client session recently. The client was playing back certain memories in their head. I was tapping on their hand, allowing them to be fully present on the memory and feelings going on for them. Intuitively I knew that me asking them to start saying words would bring them out of their memory. So I just gently kept tapping and focusing on breathing.

After awhile I felt that they had reached a place where I could check in with them. I reassured the client that just focusing on the memory whilst I was tapping was just perfect in that moment. I was then able to question the client to check how the emotions were feeling now.

The session continued in this way until the client felt no more emotion and could play back the memory without feeling triggered in any way. So remember the words are just designed to help us stay tuned in the memory/emotion/pain etc. If you are right there in your memory/emotion/pain then you don’t need the words – keep focused on the sensations and keep tapping until you have completely resolved the issue.

The main things to remember about EFT are to be specific, focused and persistent!

Until next time!

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637

This Video May Make You Cry

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I know for the past month you’ve been hearing all about this weird “tapping” thing and the Tapping World Summit.

If you’re not sure about this tapping thing I think you should watch this video about how EFT is being used to help a group of people who have gone through some seriously traumatic events..

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4740414

All I can say is…Wow!  Absolutely amazing…

There’s an opportunity to help yourself and help the people shown in the video if you choose to.

You see, if you choose to purchase the MP3’s or CD’s of the 2012 Tapping World
Summit today 100% of your purchase price will go to help the people shown in
the video.

That’s right…100%.  The folks over at the Tapping Solution will pay for all of
the product costs and actually lose money just to make this happen.

I think it shows what they’re all about, which is spreading EFT and helping people to heal, grow and improve their life in every way possible.

Check out the video and pick up the summit today.  You’ll be glad you did.
And so will the hundreds of children shown in the video…

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4740414

Thanks!

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

How to Attend the Tapping World Summit

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Just a quick post to let you know that registration for the 2012 Tapping World Summit is officially open.

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4715538

This event has been all the buzz lately and it’s with good reason…

This event is 100% content, all designed to help you get results…and the entire 10 days of the event are free.

In the event you’ll learn exactly how to use Tapping for a variety of different issues.

This is the 4th year that this event has run.  Last year there were over 300,000 people who registered.

There’s a reason why the event keeps growing from year to year…it’s because Tapping works!

And since this event only happens once per year…you want to make sure to check it out right away so you can learn how to use Tapping in your life.

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4715538

After all, if you could learn a technique that could drastically improve your life and you
could learn how to do it for free…wouldn’t you want to?

The summit is great if you are just starting to learn about tapping or if you’ve been tapping for a long time. There really is something for everyone.

See you at the summit,
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Stop Judging Yourself

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Recently I was beating myself up for responding to stress in a way that used to serve me. I thought I had released that stress response from my system. I did some EFT with one of my tapping buddies. Out of that tapping I became aware of sadness at responding in the old way. I also realised that I was judging myself for responding in this way. I also realised that judging myself was a familiar pattern too.

We tapped together to release the sadness and self judgement. The old response used to serve me well and stop me getting too stressed by forcing me to stop (I’d get a stomach bug or bad cold). I no longer have that old level of stress in my life, yet at times I still respond like I used to. I was effectively beating myself up for still responding in the old way. Out of our session together I was able to release my sadness, self judgement and develop a sense of inner peace.

I became aware of the need to listen to my body more carefully and more often. That way I can become aware of any emotions or stress building up and listen without judgement.

We often judge ourselves instead of accepting and allowing our emotions to flow. So if you judge yourself at times for feeling certain emotions or reacting in certain ways then tapping can definitely benefit you. Try some of the following statements to help you stop judging yourself:

  • Even though I’m judging myself for feeling {emotion} I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m judging myself because I reacted in that old way, I’m open to being kind to myself and letting go of this judgement
  • Even though I always judge myself instead of accepting these feelings, I’m open to the possibility of accepting all of me

Tap through all of the related emotions until you feel a sense of peace and self acceptance. We are often very self-critical and self judging. So make this tapping a priority if this is an issue for you.

I wish you self acceptance and peace.

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Taking On Too Much

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  • How often do you take on too much?
  • Do you feel like you can’t say no?
  • Do you want to please everybody?
  • Do you feel you are letting people down if you say no?

We can’t be superman or superwoman! We need to have boundaries. We need to look after ourselves. If we do too much and then get ill then we can’t help anyone.

So make looking after yourself a priority. Learn to say no. Enlist the help of others.

If any of that triggers something in you then it’s time to tap! Start by trying statements like:

  • Even though I always take on too much, I’m open to the possibility of changing my ways
  • Even though I feel like I can’t say no, I’m open to learning how to set boundaries
  • Even though I want to help everybody and make them feel good, I do need to look after me
  • Even though I’m a people pleaser, I’m open to looking after myself too

Remember to keep tapping until you have fully finished with each aspect.

Learn to look after yourself. You could:

  • Relax in the bath with some essential oils
  • Take a walk in nature
  • Read a book
  • Watch your favourite movie
  • Get a massage
  • Meditate

All of these things help us to look after ourselves and ultimately others too. Use EFT any time your boundaries get overrun and you are putting everyone else before yourself!

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Now…in a minute

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I was recently amused by a friend on Facebook. They had the following image on their page:

Now in a minute

Being Welsh, it amused me no end. I have said this phrase often myself! 🙂

That got me thinking about other similar sayings like the Spanish “mañana” or the Cornish: “I’ll do it dreckly”!  Then I realised how frustrating it can be to hear phrases such as this.

If we are expecting something to be done immediately or by a certain time we can get quite angry if it isn’t done when expected. So what can we do instead?

Tap of course!

Try the following:

  • Even though I’m really angry that they took so long to fix my {object}, I can choose to stay calm about this
  • Even though I’m frustrated that they haven’t finished working on my {object}, I’m ok
  • Even though they let me down because they haven’t delivered what they promised, I accept myself and this situation anyway
  • Even though I feel disappointed that they missed their deadline, I’m open to accepting this situation

Remember to be as specific as possible and keep tapping on all the emotions that come up.

There is also another aspect to this. When we say phrases such as this ourselves, what are trying to do?

Are we trying to put off the task by being vague? Do we not want to do it and therefore deliberately avoid a proper answer. Do we not think we are able to commit and complete when expected? Just practice asking yourself these questions the next time you say one of these phrases, and notice what is going on for you.

There is also the possibility that we need to lighten up and relax a little! Perhaps deadlines are a bit of an issue for you? Ask yourself what it is that you find comforting about having exact deadlines and tap around that to see if you are able to let go… All good food for thought 🙂

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Connecting With Nature

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So I was feeling kind of wobbly and a bit out of sorts. My usual “tool” would be to start tapping. Today felt different. I felt like I needed to get out and get some fresh air. It was cold and starting to sleet. I wrapped myself up in coat, hood and gloves and started walking. I walked in my local park and connected with the river. I stood and just watched it. I felt the constancy of the water flowing. I felt the wonderful energy of the water, trees and plants.

Daffodils, snowdrops and crocuses were starting to appear. I felt a wonderful sense of aliveness and new life. I breathed in deeply and appreciated everything around me. Everything else just seemed to disappear. My problems faded into the background.

Today I was helped by mother nature and I felt very grateful for this experience.

Flowing River
Flowing River

I know that EFT is always there for me. Sometimes a walk in the park can help too. Sometimes combining the two is even more powerful – tapping in nature, surrounded by all that wonderful energy 🙂

Do you have somewhere special where you go to connect with nature and indeed yourself? I’d love to hear your experiences too.

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Dealing with Shock

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“Shock: a sudden or violent disturbance of the mind, emotions, or sensibilities”

When life throws us difficult circumstances to deal with we often feel shock. It could be hearing bad news such as a loved one receiving a diagnosis of illness or passing away. It could an accident or traumatic event of some kind (e.g. fire or flood). The shock could be from a relationship ending or losing a job. It could also be something that someone said or the way someone behaved that shocked us.

Shock can make us feel weak, faint and raise our pulse. We may become absorbed in what happened and unable to think about anything else. We may feel numb, anxious or keep replaying the event over in our mind.

So what to do? At the first opportunity you have, get tapping! You don’t need to do the setup statement when you are right there in the feelings. Just start tapping focusing on what you are feeling.

Tapping really helps us release our emotions and deal with them, soothing our energy system which will also be feeling the shock.

Tap as often as you can, especially when you are recalling the shocking event or thinking about the consequences.  Keep tapping until the shock has dissipated or subsided. Tap on all the aspects of what has happened, e.g. hearing the news, thinking about the consequences, all of the emotions involved, the after effects and any previous shocks etc.

If the shock is very bad then it is probably best to seek the help of a practitioner who will be able to guide you through the process of dealing with all the associated feelings. Always seek the advice of a medical practitioner if your symptoms are severe.

EFT is a great tool to learn to help us in times of need. Adding it to your life skills is one way you can help yourself to stay on an even keel, even after a shock.

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Happy New Year 2012

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Wishing you a wonderful year ahead. I hope that 2012 brings you lots of fun, success, joy & peace.

Have you set yourself New Year Resolutions? Do you do this every year and then give up on them before January is out? How about setting yourself goals instead?

Set big goals if you always achieve your goals easily. Set smaller goals if you struggle with your goals. Start with baby steps if you find your goals very challenging. Chunk them down into smaller goals so that you build on your success.

Write a list of all the things that usually stop you achieving your goals and tap on them. Keep tapping as the challenges appear. Look for patterns and tap on these especially.

Blessings for the year ahead.

Keep tapping!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Let the tears flow

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Sometimes we face challenges that really push our buttons. We feel like we can’t take any more. I’ve had a week like that. My exhaust breaking was the final straw. I was so upset I burst into tears. Normally something like that would have just upset me a bit, but due to other challenges that are going on right now it pushed me over the edge.

We often hold on to our tears because it isn’t appropriate to cry at work or in public. Or we don’t want to appear weak, emotional or too sensitive etc.

EFT can help us let our emotions and tears flow. Try tapping along to the following:

  • Even though I can’t let myself cry because….{fill in the rest}
  • Even though I’ll seem weak if I cry….
  • Even though I’m afraid I won’t be able to stop crying if I start…..
  • Even though they’ll think I’m so emotional if I cry….
  • Even though they think I’m too sensitive because I cry all the time…
  • Even though I’ll appear to be an emotional wreck if I cry again….
  • Even though men don’t cry….

I certainly felt much better after a good cry and some tapping. It is great to be able to let our emotions out and much healthier than trying to suppress or ignore them. EFT can help us allow our emotions to flow and not to become overwhelmed by them. It can help us accept and acknowledge our feelings and not judge them.

Keep tapping and letting your emotions flow
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk

Benefits of Mentoring

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For any therapist, one of the most important things we must do is self-development. We need to keep up to date with the latest techniques, develop our skills and connect with other like-minded people. Most professional bodies these days have a requirement for a certain amount of Continuous Professional Development points each year.

One of the ways I achieve my self development is via EFT mentoring days run by the lovely Jacqui Footman. These days are  fun and I always end up learning a great deal. It is a wonderful experience meeting like-minded people and sharing information and ideas. We have some wonderful discussions and do some great shared tapping. We discuss success stories or interesting cases. Sometimes we have a guest speaker who brings a wealth of knowledge on their specialist subject.

We also have the pleasure of sharing a wonderful lunch with informal chats and a chance to get to know everyone. These days really help my practice and I really look forward to the next one in January, where we will be learning all about EFT research techniques. This will give us the opportunity to take part in research ourselves and help even more people learn the benefits of this amazing technique.

For more information on Jacqui’s wonderful mentoring days, please check out her website: http://www.eftdevon.co.uk/index.php

Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk