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How To Let Go Of Being Perfect

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Do you have a need to be perfect?

Do you always want to try your very best even if that means you suffer?

Do you always have to do a perfect job?

Don’t you find that a struggle?  I know that I do.

I’ve always had desire/need to dot the i’s and cross the t’s.  Let’s face it though – life isn’t perfect. A lot of things are actually outside of our control and yet we still try to change them, mould them to perfection. We often waste a lot of energy by trying too hard to make things “just right”. We often put ourselves out of our way to make things perfect.  We sacrifice our time, our energy and often don’t let our needs get met.

So what can we do about it?

Accept that some things we just can’t control and therefore they might not meet our high standards.  We most certainly waste energy on trying to perfect things we have no control over. So just let it go.  Try:

  • Even though I want everything to be perfect and I find it hard to accept things I can’t control, I accept all of my feelings anyway
  • Even though it’s hard to accept things not being perfect, I’m open to the possibility of letting go of this need to be perfect on things I can’t control
  • Even though I must have everything perfect, I’m open to accepting that I don’t have control over some things and I have to let them go

We are often very hard on ourselves and our high perfect standards. If this is an issue for you try the following statements:

  • Even though I’m my own worst critic, everything has to be perfect else I’m not good enough, I accept all of my feelings about this
  • Even though I’m highly critical of myself and everything has to be perfect, I’m willing to try giving myself a break
  • Even though being perfect means the world to me, I’m open to accepting myself even when everything isn’t perfect

You might want to look at where this need to be perfect comes from?  Is it from your parents? Were they perfectionists? Did you feel you had to do everything perfectly in order to gain their love, acceptance or approval? 

Was it a past partner, or your current partner even? 

Write down what comes up for you as you consider this and then use EFT to tap on any feelings and memories that you feel are an issue.

Here’s something else you can tap on to relieve the pressures of being a perfectionist:

  • Even though I’m a perfectionist and everything has to be just so, I accept myself just as I am
  • Even though everything has to be perfect, I accept myself and all my feelings anyway
  • Even though I have to be perfect, I’m perfect in my imperfection!

Keep on tapping on all the things that drive you crazy about being a perfectionist.  Try making a list of things that have to be perfect and then working on one thing at a time and see if you can give yourself a break.

If you would like some help with this issue, then I’d love to help you. Please call or email me to book your one to one session on the phone or via Skype. I also offer face to face sessions in Exeter, Tavistock and Okehampton in Devon and in Cardiff.

How To Deal With The Unexpected

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What do we do when we are delivered with the unexpected?

  • Kick up a fuss?
  • Run and hide?
  • Moan & groan?
  • Just get on with it?

Our reaction may differ depending on what the unexpected is.  I started reflecting on this on the weekend.  My first unexpected event was my friend’s visit cut short due to a family illness. There was nothing that could be done and I just accepted it. It was a shame they had to go but I completely understood.  So I suddenly had a weekend with no plans.  I thought great – quality time to spend with my boyfriend.  That was when unexpected event number two reared its head. I’d developed a cold on the Friday and I started to feel worse as the Saturday wore on.  A lazy day around the house developed. I thought – I’ll feel better tomorrow and we can go off for a nice walk and lunch somewhere.  My body had other ideas.  On the Sunday I woke up with ear ache. Something I’d never really had before.  As the day wore on my pain got so bad, I was laughing and crying and not sure what to do with myself.

I did a lot of EFT. It helped a bit but I had to take some pain killers and decongestants too. What I realise now is that I didn’t do any tapping on these unexpected things happening and how I felt about them.

How many times do we react to these things that crop up unexpectedly and then don’t do anything to counter our negative feelings? Emotional Freedom Techniques can be used on all of our negative emotions, feelings, experiences and much more!

So how do you start tapping on such an issue. Here’s a tapping script that will help you get started:

  • Even though {event} happened unexpectedly, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I didn’t want {event} to happen and I didn’t expect things to turn out this way, I accept all of my feelings
  • Even though I wish things had turned out how I expected them to, instead of {event} happening, I accept that you can’t plan the unexpected!

Eyebrow: Things didn’t turn out how I planned them
Side of Eye: I wish {event} hadn’t happened
Under Eye: I wish things didn’t have to change unexpectedly
Under Nose: I’m disappointed my plans changed
Under Chin: Why did that {event} have to happen?
Collarbone: I hate the unexpected
Under Arm: I don’t like my plans changing unexpectedly
Top of Head: Why did {event} have to happen like that?

Eyebrow: I hate it when the unexpected happens
Side of Eye: I don’t like things changing
Under Eye: I hate dealing with the unexpected
Under Nose: I feel out of control when the unexpected happens
Under Chin: Why did that have to happen?
Collarbone: I wish things had gone to plan
Under Arm: I didn’t want my plans to change
Top of Head: Why couldn’t things have gone as I expected them to

Eyebrow: I accept I can’t control everything
Side of Eye: Maybe I can deal with this easily
Under Eye: I can’t plan for the unexpected
Under Nose: It’s ok, maybe it happened for a reason
Under Chin: Maybe things have turned out for the best
Collarbone: What if I can just accept what has happened
Under Arm: I don’t have to be in control all the time
Top of Head: Maybe I can accept the unexpected

I hope that has given you an idea on how to start tapping for the unexpected. Use whatever feelings you have, whether they are disappointment, anger, frustration, sadness or guilt. Then tap on all of the associated feelings until you can easily accept what has happened.

We often can’t change things that happen to us and we can always change how we feel about it. We just need to take time to tap!

I’m Not Good Enough

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Have you ever said “I’m not good enough”. Do you ever get held back at work because you think you’re not capable, or you fear making mistakes or failing? Maybe you haven’t asked someone out because you didn’t think you were good enough for them. Or maybe you don’t put yourself forward for things with your friends or family because you’re afraid you’ll disappoint them. These are things we have all felt at one time or another. It’s what you do (or don’t do!) about it that matters! EFT can help all of these feelings. The key is to make a note of these feelings and thoughts as they come up and tap on them.

You also need a bit of dedication and persistence too. Often people do not get results with EFT because they give up too quickly. One minute wonders do sometimes happen with EFT but most often you need to tap consistently for an hour or more. This can be done in several sessions – you just need to commit to doing the tapping!

Here’s a tapping script that will help.

Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I think I’m not good enough, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m scared of failing, I deeply and completely accept myself
  • Even though I worry I’ll disappoint people, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings

Eyebrow: I’m not good enough
Side of Eye: I’m not as capable as others
Under Eye: I’m scared I’ll fail
Under Nose: I think I’ll disappoint people
Under Chin: I’m just not good enough
Collarbone: I hate feeling like this
Under Arm: I worry I’ll make a fool of myself
Top of Head: I’m not good enough for them

Eyebrow: I’ll fail I know I will
Side of Eye: I’ll make too many mistakes
Under Eye: I just can’t do it
Under Nose: I’m not good enough
Under Chin: I wish I could believe in myself
Collarbone: I’m worried I’ll fail
Under Arm: I wish I didn’t feel like this
Top of Head: I’m a disappointment to people

Eyebrow: What if I could do it
Side of Eye: Maybe I won’t fail
Under Eye: What if I just tried
Under Nose: Maybe I won’t disappoint people
Under Chin: What if I did succeed
Collarbone: Maybe I can believe in myself
Under Arm: What if I am good enough
Top of Head: I can do it

Remember to keep tapping until you feel better. Keep tapping on all the different things that are causing this feeling. Think back into the past and try to recall the first time you felt this way. What was going on for you back then? Tap on those events, feelings or thoughts, to get to the root of this problem.

Alex Reid uses EFT

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Alex Reid, (Katy Price’s husband) is a tapper! The cage fighter has an EFT trainer who helps him deal with stress and “sort his head out”.  He has suggested that X-Factor judge Cheryl Cole use his Emotional Freedom Technique Trainer to help her de-stress following her split from footballer Ashley Cole.

Reid stated: “I have to say a special thanks to Dennis, my EFT trainer. That stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. He’s like a therapist and has really helped me deal with the trials and tribulations of my new celebrity life! ”

Let’s hope that Cheryl takes his advice and gains the benefits of EFT. EFT is an amazing technique that can help you deal with:

  • Negative emotions
  • Relationship problems
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Self-esteem
  • Confidence

All of these issues can come up when you split with a partner or are going through a divorce. I know – I’ve been there! If only I’d had EFT at the time – life would have been so much better.

No Smoking Day 10th March 2010

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Ok, so it’s No Smoking Day again on March 10th. You’ve tried to quit before but failed. You find it really difficult to control your cravings & you get irritable when you’re suffering from withdrawal symptoms.

Maybe you’ve stockpiled patches or gum to help you get through the day. Or maybe you’ve decided to take the day off because you just know you won’t be able to make it through a whole day without smoking and you don’t want the hassle off people…

If any of that sounds familiar to you then there is a different solution out there! EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques can help you quit smoking the easy way:

  • Control your cravings
  • No willpower required
  • No patches or gum
  • Ease your withdrawal symptoms
  • Deal with reasons why you smoke
  • Ease the anxiety of losing your comforter
  • Address your concerns about failing or indeed succeeding!
  • Deal with your identity as a smoker
  • Empower yourself as a healthy non-smoker

For more information on how I can help you give up smoking, please go to my stop smoking page.

You can give me a call on 07866 013 637 for a free confidential, no obligation chat. Or use the contact form to drop me a line. Maybe you’re ready to find out how easy it is to stop smoking with EFT.

I feel like a freak

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Ok, I’ve said it. I feel like a freak.

Have you ever said those words to yourself?

Have you ever thought, “I’m the only one who feels like this!!!”?

If you’re a woman with fertility issues, then I bet you’ve felt something like this before. If you’ve been trying for a baby for a while and had no success I’m sure you’ve said:

  • Why me?
  • It’s not fair
  • What’s wrong with me?
  • Why can’t I get pregnant?
  • What have I done wrong?
  • I’ll never get pregnant

Well, let me reassure you…you are not a freak! You most certainly are not alone.

I have lots of clients who experience these exact feelings. One of the most common feelings is jealousy. I am always surprised by how many women find this a taboo subject. That’s why I felt compelled to write this. I don’t want any woman to feel like a freak or that she is alone.

Jealousy is a perfectly normal emotion to experience if you are having trouble getting pregnant. You may think that everywhere you turn there is a pregnant women. Or you may see babies and toddlers where ever you go.

Let me assure you that there isn’t a sudden increase in pregnant women and babies. You are just tuned in to them and that is why you notice them. There is a special part of your brain (called the RAS – Reticular Activating System) that acts like an antenna. You are desperate to get pregnant and have a baby so your RAS responds and flags them to you everywhere you go.

Your RAS keeps showing you what you are tuned in to. It is no wonder that you feel jealousy, envy, sadness, despair every time you notice that you don’t have what you really want.

Another big emotion that then shows up is guilt! You feel guilty about feeling jealous or envious. You think “I should be happy for my best friend / sister /neighbour” etc. But you don’t. You feel jealous and envious and really wish it was you who was pregnant or just had a baby. So you feel guilty and that adds to all the negative energy and stress you are experiencing.

So what can you do about it? You do not have to suffer these emotions and feelings alone. You do not have to hide your feelings from everyone. You can get help. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can eliminate all of the negative feelings and stress. EFT is easy to learn and very effective.

Below are some sample tapping statements to try. Always tune in to your feelings first and score them on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 10 is the maximum intensity). Keep tapping on each emotion until it comes down to 0.

Replace the dots with whoever it is you are jealous of e.g. friend / sister / neighbour

  • Even though I feel so jealous of my …………….. because she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I’m open to accepting myself and my feelings
  • Even though I feel envious and I don’t want to think about my …………….. because it’s so unfair that she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I feel jealous of my …………….., she’s a lucky cow and it’s so unfair that she’s got a baby and I haven’t, I’m open to accepting myself

Eyebrow: I’m so jealous of ……………..
Side of Eye: I wish I could be happy for her
Under Eye: Why do I feel this envy of ……………..
Under Nose: I feel so much jealousy
Under Chin: I hate feeling all this jealousy
Collarbone: I wish I didn’t feel this way
Under Arm: All this jealousy
Top of Head: It’s so unfair that …………….. has a baby and I don’t

Take a deep breath and tune in to your feelings again. If your jealousy feelings are at zero then you can move on to the next feeling. If not, keep tapping on jealousy until you are down to zero.

  • Even though I feel so sad that I can’t get pregnant, I don’t know what I’ve done wrong, I’m open to accepting myself and my feelings
  • Even though I feel this sadness in my heart because I can’t get pregnant, I accept how I feel about this
  • Even though I can’t stop thinking it’s all my fault that I can’t get pregnant and I’m obsessed by wanting a baby, I’m open to accepting myself

Eyebrow: All this sadness in my heart
Side of Eye: I feel so sad that I can’t get pregnant
Under Eye: I’m desperately sad because I can’t have a baby
Under Nose: I feel so sad that I’m not pregnant
Under Chin: I hate feeling all this sadness and desperation
Collarbone: I wish I didn’t feel this way
Under Arm: All this sadness in my heart
Top of Head: It’s so unfair that I can’t get pregnant

Remember to use your words, where appropriate. Keep on tuning in to each emotion or feeling in turn and tap until it is down to zero before moving on to the next one. Keep on tapping until you have worked on all of your emotions and stress.

If you would like some help with Emotional Freedom Techniques, I would love to help you. I offer sessions worldwide over the telephone or on Skype. If you would like a face to face session I do these in Cardiff or Exeter and Okehampton, Devon. Please give me a call on 07866 013 637 or use the contact form. I offer a free telephone consultation for you, to see if you would like to work with me. I look forward to helping you overcome your negative emotions and stress.

Tapping World Summit 2010

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Last year over 81,000 listened to the Tapping World Summit!

It has already started and you can still sign up and listen for free… 

It’s free, it’s online, and it’s streaming right to your computer…

It’s the 2010 Tapping World Summit! 

If you haven’t yet heard about this event or its line up of speakers and amazing topics, then click on the link below to learn why you absolutely must attend this event:

http://www.tryitoneverything.com/cmd.php?Clk=3563166

Registering for free gives you access to this ten day online event that features over 20 interviews from some of the top Meridian Tapping Experts in the world.

They’re going to be showing you EXACTLY how to use Tapping for issues such as physical pain, limiting beliefs, weight loss, food cravings, addiction and much more.

You’ll also be learning how to use EFT and Tapping to break past fears and blocks that keep you from succeeding financially.

Last year over 81,000 people attended this event online and this year it looks like that record is going to be shattered! 

But you won’t get access to any of the calls if you’re not registered!

And this event only comes around once a year.  I’d hate for you to miss out on it because last year it changed the lives of literally tens of thousands of people.

Don’t let any excuses get in your way…just be there!  🙂

http://www.tryitoneverything.com/cmd.php?Clk=3563166

I’ll see you there,

Louise      

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The first two audios were amazing, so don’t miss out, sign up now.

Janey Lee Grace – Is an EFT Convert

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Janey Lee Grace – author and Radio 2 presenter (Steve Wright’s afternoon show), is now an EFT convert too! Janey is an avid holistic and alternative therapy advocate. Her website http://www.imperfectlynatural.com/ provides a wealth of information on topics from natural health to EMFs.

Janey had experienced EFT in the past – in combination with other treatments and always thought it was the other therapies that worked not the Emotional Freedom Techniques.

That all changed when Janey attended an EFT Level 1 course. During the day she explored a traumatic experience from the past that resulted in a phobia. Janey discovered one of the most beneficial aspects of EFT – that you don’t actually have to reveal to the practitioner what that trauma or phobia is! EFT is a very gentle technique and limits any further trauma.

To read the article see Janey’s blog:

http://janeyleegrace.blogspot.com/2010/02/tapping-away-eft-styleya-convert.html

I look forward to hearing more of Janey’s journey with EFT!

EFT in the News – Telegraph Article

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I always get excited when EFT is mentioned in the media. It helps raise awareness with people who have never heard of it. It can also help those who won’t try anything unless it is covered by a newspaper or national television. Whilst Emotional Freedom Techniques has been around since the early 1990’s there are still many people who haven’t a clue about what it is.

The Telegraph.co.uk article was written by Beverley Turner who attended an EFT course in London. She explains what it was like to attend an EFT course (lack of sandal and kaftan wearing attendees) and relates experiences of some experienced practitioners on topics such as drug problems and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

She mentions celebrities such as Michael Ball and the late Stephen Gately who used EFT for performance anxiety, Lily Allen who credits her weight loss to EFT and professional athletes such as American PGA golfers who use it to improve their game.

To read the article: http://bit.ly/cuzzny

Here’s to hoping EFT will make it into the media on a regular basis and more people will discover this amazing, life changing tool.

Physical Healing equals believing…

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There are plenty of sceptical people out there who don’t believe we have an energy system, let alone that something like EFT can actually heal us. One thing that does seem to convince even sceptical people is if they try it on a physical issue. Many people have been pleasantly surprised when their headache disappeared, or their back pain was dramatically reduced.

My response is – just try it…what have you got to lose? Only some time. There are plenty of free EFT manuals out there (if you want to download mine just sign up to my informative newsletter and it’s yours http://bit.ly/FFE_Newsletter).

Once you have the manual, you can try EFT for free in the comfort of your own home. My advice is to try it on something physical e.g. headache, back pain, cold etc. I wouldn’t recommend trying it on your long-standing illness on your own (get some help from a qualified practitioner!).

I have two recent experiences where EFT worked beautifully on physical issues. The first was an “unidentified” ulcer/cold sore on my lip. This appeared on Monday afternoon. I didn’t know what it was, but it looked like an ulcer on my lip – I suspected a cold sore but it wasn’t tingling and besides, I haven’t had one for about 20 years.  So I tapped on:

Even though this “thing” on my lip has appeared on my lip from nowhere, I accept myself anyway.

Even though I have this ulcer on my lower right lip, my body has a wonderful healing ability and can easily deal with this.

Even though this thing on my lip is hurting, I’m grateful for the amazing healing ability of my body.

Then I tapped on the rest of the points using phrases like:

  • My body can easily heal this
  • This thing on my lip is healing now
  • I have this amazing healing ability
  • My body is healthy and strong and can heal my lower right lip
  • I’m grateful for this thing on my lip and acknowledge my body for sending me this message
  • My lower right lip is healing beautifully

I tapped on this for several rounds a few times for 2 days. My lip is now completely healed.

The second was a case of first aid EFT. I accidently burnt my ring finger on my cooker. I felt stupid for doing it as I was cleaning a spillage on the hob and knew it was hot. Plus my finger really hurt. I ran it under some cold water for a few minutes then immediately tapped on:

Even though I feel real stupid for burning my finger on the hob, I accept myself and my stupidity

Even though this burn on my finger is really hurting and it was my fault, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself

Even though I had this accident and burned my finger, it shouldn’t have happened and it hurts like hell, I accept and forgive myself anyway.

Then I tapped on the remaining points using phrases like:

  • I was stupid and I burnt my finger
  • My ring finger really hurts
  • This burn on my right ring finger is hurting like hell
  • I didn’t do this on purpose but I do feel kinda stupid
  • This burn on my right ring finger knuckle
  • This red hot burn on my right ring knuckle
  • This red burning sensation on the knuckle of my right ring finger
  • My body has a wonderful healing ability
  • I can heal this quickly and easily
  • My pain is reducing and the redness is calming down
  • My wonderful body and it’s healing ability can deal with this
  • What if my body could easily heal this burn on my right ring finger
  • What if a big blister didn’t appear
  • Maybe my body can heal this burn on my finger easily

After a short time the pain had disappeared completely. The swelling went down and only a tiny flat blister appeared. I was expecting some pain when I bent my knuckle, as the burn was right on my knuckle. I could bend my finger no problem without any pain. Later, I was washing my hands in hot water and thought – still no pain! Wow! The next day I did a couple more rounds of my finger healing quickly and easily. I’ve had no pain since and there is only a tiny blister remaining. I love the healing power of EFT!

Some tips with physical issues:

  • Start with something simple not a major injury/illness
  • Be specific, e.g. burn on my right ring finger
  • Use any emotions associated with the pain, e.g. my stupid feeling
  • Use descriptive words encompassing things like any colour associated with the pain, whether there is any temperature, heaviness, tingling etc
  • Be persistent – don’t expect a one minute wonder – they do sometimes happen but most often you need persistence
  • Be ready to “chase the pain” as Gary Craig says – it may change sensation or move around your body – keep tapping as you follow it. It may move up & out or down further into your body
  • Get some help if you get stuck.

Keep on tapping!

What No Chocolate Desire!

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Ok, it’s been a few weeks since I created my food cravings video and blog post. I just wanted to give you some of my feedback since that blog & video. Whilst I do love chocolate, I wouldn’t say I felt I had a problem with chocolate. Sometimes I’d really fancy it and other times I could take it or leave it. I would get a craving for it at certain times of the month, like a lot of women. My boyfriend would even joke with me at those times if I was getting a bit grouchy and say “quick it’s time to break out the emergency chocolate”!!!

I can report that I didn’t have any of that this past month. No chocolate cravings. No feeling grouchy before my period.

I have also just completed my usual January detox again and usually have a bit of craving for certain food afterwards, chocolate being one of  them. I finished my detox and didn’t feel like chocolate. I just wanted to carry on eating really healthily like I had been for the past month.

Hmmm, I was thinking what’s different? Then I remembered. I’d created that blog & video!  Could that be it? It seemed too simple. I didn’t create that blog & video for me – I wasn’t tapping on my stuff…or was I?

Whilst I’m not sure if this is a permanent thing, it sure is interesting. So maybe a word of warning would be – don’t tap on your food cravings unless you’re sure you don’t want to eat that food again!

I love EFT and the wonderful ways it works. Happy tapping!

Want a session of EFT to address your cravings? Give me a call on 07866 013 637 or drop me an email – louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk. Phone sessions available worldwide or face to face in Cardiff or Devon.

Happy New Year Resolutions

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Happy New Year!

I hope that you’ve had a wonderful Christmas and are ready to face the new year.

This is traditionally the time of year when people make new year’s resolutions. Well maybe you’ve made them before and they fell by the way side by the end of January (or even the middle of Jan!). It doesn’t have to be that way. You see, many people have a small setback and think, oh that’s it – I’ve blown it. Might as well give up. There then follows that inner dialogue – you know the one – I’m never good at new year’s resolutions. I always give up on things. I’m never good at sticking to new things. I’m not good enough and on it goes. Sound familiar?

When you learnt to walk, you didn’t give up the first time you fell over. You kept going and fell over many times. You just kept getting up more times than you fell over. That’s one of the keys. The other is to use a simple tool to help you, with all of that negative self talk. It’s called EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques.

Here’s a great video you can tap along with by Fiona McCallion:

http://coerdelion.wordpress.com/2010/01/03/47/

The other thing to do is to actually write down your resolution in the form of a goal. Be specific. Use numbers and dates etc. So if you are wanting to lose weight – write down your ideal weight and when you want to achieve this by. Set yourself a challenge and be realistic at the same time. It’s no good setting yourself a target of losing 2 stone in a month – it just won’t happen, so you’re setting yourself up for a fall from the beginning.

Next, visualise yourself having achieved your goal. This step is really important. Step into yourself at your ideal weight – how good do you feel? Look in the mirror at your new self & admire how you look. How great your body feels. How much more energy you have. Your new zest for life.

Get the idea? Make the picture big & bright, with lots of colours. Turn up the feelings and the sounds. Really feel it. Now step out of the picture and hold it in your hands. Feel yourself being drawn towards your goal and go for it!

So now, what is your new year’s resolution?

If you want some help with yours, I’d love to help you get rid of that negative self talk, help you eliminate your cravings and help you bust your bad behaviours.

Give me a call on 07866 013 637. I work on the telephone or face to face in Cardiff, or Okehampton and Exeter in Devon, UK.

Christmas Preparations

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Christmas should be a wonderful time of year.  Spending time with loved ones, giving and receiving gifts and sharing special meals with friends.  In reality though, there is often a lot of stress and anxiety involved.  There is too much to do in too little time, worries about not having enough money, fears and anxieties about not getting the “right” presents for people, whether the food will be cooked to perfection, will Aunt Joan wind up your father-in-law….and the list goes on.

So instead of just ploughing through the list of chores and letting the stress pile up so that it makes it almost impossible for you to enjoy the festive season, I suggest you make a little time for some different preparations…preparing you!

Tapping Script for Christmas Peace:

Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:

  • Even though I’ve got way too much to do and not enough time to do it in and I’m feeling really stressed about Christmas, I accept how I feel
  • Even though I’m worried that I won’t get it all finished in time, I accept myself and how I feel about this Christmas
  • Even though I don’t know how I’m going to pay for Christmas this year and it’s so hard finding presents on a budget, I deeply and completely accept myself and all my feelings of inadequacy

Eyebrow: I’ve still got way too many things to do
Side of Eye: I should’ve started shopping earlier
Under Eye: Why didn’t I get more organised
Under Nose: I’ve left it to the last minute again
Under Chin: I’m so stressed about Christmas
Collarbone: I don’t get enough help with all the preparations
Under Arm: When will I learn to start preparing earlier
Top of Head: I’ve got too many presents to buy still

Eyebrow: I’m going to be working so hard on Christmas Eve
Side of Eye: I don’t think I’ve bought the right presents for people
Under Eye: There’s too much pressure on me
Under Nose: I can’t afford Christmas!
Under Chin: I don’t have enough money to buy presents
Collarbone: Why can’t my husband/wife/partner help me?
Under Arm: Christmas is too stressful
Top of Head: I hate all this pressure to do everything perfectly

Eyebrow: What if I could stop feeling so stressed
Side of Eye: Maybe if I was calmer, I’d get more done
Under Eye: What if I wrote a list and get more organised
Under Nose: Maybe I can get some help
Under Chin: Maybe I’m putting too much pressure on myself
Collarbone: What if I appreciated the really important things
Under Arm: What if I don’t have to do everything perfectly
Top of Head: What if I made some thoughtful presents instead of buying stuff people don’t want anyway

Keep tapping until you feel calm and peaceful.  If any particular stress or anxieties come up then make sure that you tap on them too.

Tapping Suggestions:

  • Not having enough money to buy presents, food, drink, party clothes etc
  • Worries about spending time with certain family members, arguments
  • Losing the real meaning of Christmas and all the commercialism
  • Missing a loved one or being separated from loved ones at Christmas
  • Not having enough time to relax, pressures of having to visit lots of people etc
  • Having to travel long distances

I wish you a wonderful, calm and peaceful Christmas!

How To Help Your Child With Cancer – Free Teleseminar

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Attention: Parents, Relatives, Caregivers and Medical Support Staff

How To Help Your Child With Cancer!
Special Free Tele-Seminar

Deborah D Miller Ph.D. has been working with kids with cancer in a hospital
setting since Sept 2007 using Energy Techniques like EFT.

The results have been remarkable, resulting in an improved quality of life
for the children, the parents, relatives, nursing staff and medical support
people involved.
Parents: Learn tools that empower and calm you so that you can better
help your child.

Come join Deborah for this Tele-seminar series where she will help you
address the issues that affect you as a parent with a child with cancer.

In this free teleseminar:

– Deborah explains how she got involved with the kids with cancer
– Results achieved for the kids, parents and staff
– Energy Techniques: What are they? What is Tapping? How to Tap.
– Where to begin helping your child
– Learn how to use these techniques to help your child
– Live tapping during the call
Call date: Dec 2 2009
Live Call Time: 2:00 pm ET 11:00 am Pacific – 7:00 pm UK time

If you cannot make the live call or want to listen to it for a second
time everyone who registers will also receive the link to the recording.

Just Click here to register for this Free Call http://www.lifemademucheasier.com/212-19-5-17.html

PLEASE FEEL FREE TO FORWARD TO ANYONE YOU FEEL MAY INTERESTED IN THIS SPECIAL TELE-SEMINAR

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Losing Weight The Easy (EFT) Way

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So you’d like to lose weight. You’ve tried the low-carb, low GI, calorie controlled and even the cabbage soup diet (yuck!). You’ve yo-yoed up and down, maybe even putting on more weight than you lost the last time. So how about you try something completely different this time? Something that’s a little weird and strange-looking.

Well if you’re willing to try a bit of “Tapping” or Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) then you could just transform your relationship with food forever. Paul McKenna is famous for his weight loss books and programs and his technique is a ‘close relative’ of EFT.

EFT involves gentle tapping on natural comfort points on the body, that you can do yourself. It’s simple and easy to learn. EFT has been very successful for people who want to lose weight. It works without pills, measuring calories, counting “sins” or any other props.

EFT typically produces quick results. It also empowers people by allowing them to help themselves whenever they feel a craving for a particular food. In short, it helps put you in control of your relationship with food and allows you to naturally choose healthier options.

EFT can help address all the negative emotions that often accompany over-eating. Working with a Practitioner ensures all aspects of the client’s relationship with food are addressed. EFT works by tuning into the problem, as certain points on the face and body are tapped, thus clearing the blockage associated with that emotion. Certain statements are repeated to help the client tune in to the problem. The statement contains an element of acknowledging the problem and accepting the self despite the problem. This is often a key piece. The tapping is repeated until the emotion or feeling subsides. The client is encouraged to tune in themselves and use their own words to describe their feelings.

As a first step, EFT is a fantastic way of controlling any cravings that you may have. People are often surprised at how effective EFT is at helping them control their cravings. After a few rounds of EFT, the craving typically disappears and the object they were previously craving can appear less appetising or even repulsive! EFT statements follow a pattern of:

  • Even though I feel {name problem} I accept myself anyway or
  • Even though I have {this problem} I accept myself anyway

So with cravings the following types of statements are often used:

  • Even though I really crave this chocolate bar, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I have this strong craving for a cream doughnut, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I crave ice-cream at night, I accept myself anyway

This is a wonderful way to get started with EFT. It is the beginning of the process of putting you back in control. Following on from this, we begin to look at all the emotions involved with eating. Many people eat because they are avoiding certain emotions and they use food to stuff down their feelings. Some people feel empty inside and use food to help fill their loneliness or sadness.

The following EFT statements relate to the emotions involved when we eat food:

  • Even though I eat when I’m bored, I accept myself anyway
  • Even though I eat cakes to avoid my feelings…
  • Even though I use food to soothe myself…
  • Even though I stuff myself when I’m angry…
  • Even though I eat too much when I’m lonely…

By focusing on these thoughts whilst tapping on the specific energy points, the emotions are calmed and the energy system balanced. Leaving you feeling in control and able to think clearly about what you want to eat and why.

EFT can also be used to address any feelings of shame or guilt after you’ve eaten too much. Examples:

  • Even though I feel guilty for eating that whole packet of biscuits…
  • Even though I’m ashamed I ate a whole tub of ice-cream…

We’ll then explore the feelings that surround their family and childhood experiences. These are often major factors in our relationship with food as an adult. Examples:

  • Even though my Mum always gave me biscuits when I was sad…
  • Even though my Dad said I should eat every morsel on my plate because of the starving children in Africa…
  • Even though my Mum and I always ate cakes whenever Dad was mad…

Following on from this we’ll look at all the things that are preventing them from losing weight. These are very individual and may range from feeling unsafe if they were thinner to feeling like they don’t deserve to be happy with their figure. Many people feel like they would have too much pressure on them to keep the weight off and this is a major psychological block.

We may also look at any specific incidents from the past where the client used food to soothe their emotions and this can be very revealing as to why food is presently used in this way. These earlier events can then be tapped on to clear them from the system. I also get my clients to visualise themselves in the future, weighing their goal weight and get them to tap on any doubts, fears or anxieties that come up.

As yo-yo dieting and starving after bingeing slow down the metabolism, we will also if necessary tap on their slow metabolism or use a positive affirmation such as “my metabolism is speeding up”. This can be very empowering.

I give my clients “tapping homework” to do in between sessions. The client is then empowered to help themselves whenever they have a craving or recognise a negative emotion and the results are usually quicker with continued tapping.
It is possible to learn EFT yourself very quickly and gain good results. However, working with an experienced practitioner who will guide you through the process is often more effective and supportive.

For more information please visit my website: http://www.freeflowingenergy.co.uk.

Or give me a call and we can start working together to change your relationship with food. Tel: 07866 013 637